New Advanced IFS Classes

I will soon be offering two new Advanced IFS Classes.

In the Advanced IFS Classes, you learn intermediate to advanced techniques and understandings that go beyond what I teach in the Basic IFS Course. Therapists also have a chance for advanced training and consultation on IFS. I have taught these classes for many years and they have been very successful.

Format. The classes meet twice a month for two hours by video-conference. Each class includes teaching, lots of sharing and discussion, demonstration IFS sessions where I work with a volunteer from the class, and experiential group exercises. You pair up with each other between classes to practice doing IFS sessions with each other. This is a very important part of the class, and people tell me how much they get from working with each other.

Each class is limited to 8 participants, so we have a small cohesive group (especially since we can see each other by video-conference), where people feel safe to be vulnerable. The texts for the classes are my books Self-Therapy, Self-Therapy, Vol. 2 and Self-Therapy, Vol. 3. 

Professionals. Some classes are for therapists and coaches (and other helping professionals) and some are for everyone. These classes are approved by the Center for Self-Leadership for IFS CE credit.

Prerequisite. In order to qualify for the class, you must have taken my Basic IFS Course or equivalent, and I recommend that you also have taken my IFS Exiles Course or equivalent.

Class 2: Second and Fourth Wednesdays of each month
For therapists and coaches
4:30-6:30 pm pacific time (7:30-9:30 eastern)
Starts Feb. 28, 2018

Class 3: First and third Tuesdays of each month
For everyone
10 am – 12 noon pacific time (1-3 pm eastern, 6-8 pm UK)
Stating date to be determined

Click here for more information on the Advanced IFS Classes.

If you want to enroll, send an email to me at earley.jay@gmail.com to set up a short call with me.

 

 

 

New Interactive/IFS Group for Professionals

An Interactive/IFS Group can help you . . .

  • Develop your capacity for intimacy and learn how to make a love relationship work
  • Become more assertive
  • Become more outgoing and socially comfortable
  • Learn what you may be doing to keep your relationships from being satisfying
  • Understand and trust people of the opposite sex . . . or of the same sex
  • Learn how to deal with anger and conflict constructively
  • Become part of a loving community of people
  • Raise your self-esteem
  • Get in touch with your personal power

You can learn these relationship skills:

  • Being in touch with your feelings and expressing them
  • Speaking for your parts, not acting them out
  • Reaching out to others confidently
  • Saying ”No” firmly
  • Allowing yourself to be open and vulnerable
  • Expressing yourself forcefully and spontaneously
  • Being comfortable relating to a group of people
  • Asking for what you really want
  • Having the courage to bring up difficult issues
  • Empathizing with others

What Happens

  • You work directly on how you are relating to the other group members . . . in the moment. Instead of just talking about how you relate in your life, you practice interacting with others right in the group and get help as you do.
  • You get direct and honest feedback on how people are reacting to you.
  • The group provides a safe place for you to try out new, healthy ways of relating to people.
  • You learn how to feel your emotional responses and identify the parts that are activated while interacting with people
  • You learn how communicate openly, clearly, and assertively.
  • You learn how to access and work with the parts of you that get triggered in interactions with people, using IFS.
  • You discover your ways of relating that aren’t working for you , so you can experiment with changing them in the group.
  • You can share your life issues and struggles with the group.
  • You see other people struggling with problems similar to yours, and through this you learn about yourself and others.
  • There is a strong sense of support for each person and a warm feeling of community in the group.

Format

The group meets by videoconference, so we all can see each other, which enhances the group connection.

The ongoing group meets twice a month, and you meet with me for an individual consultation on the group every 3 months.

Each meeting is recorded, so if you miss one, you can watch the recording.

Cost: $120/month, including consultations
The groups are limited to 8 people.

First and third Wednesdays of each month
10am- 12 noon pacific time (1-3 pm eastern, 6-8 pm UK)

This group will start on Feb. 21, 2018

For more information, click http://personal-growth-programs.com/interactive_groups/

Getting Started

You meet with me for a free pre-group interview to see if the group is a good fit for you.

For a free pre-group interview, email me at earley.jay@gmail.com.

An Interactive Group Story

Interactive GroupThis is the story of Sharon’s work in one of my Interactive Groups. Sharon is a recovering alcoholic who had been sober for over a decade with the help of AA and therapy. In that time, she had worked through enough of her issues that she was not in much emotional pain. She was a successful management consultant, had some close friends, and an active social life.

Her major unresolved problem was lack of intimacy. She tended to keep people at a distance and avoided a committed love relationship. Since her marriage ended many years before, she hadn’t allowed a man close.

We all want to be liked; we all want closeness with others.  To express these desires directly to other people puts us in a vulnerable position. We fear that they might not reciprocate, or they might even reject us or put us down. So we develop defenses against our own desires and the accompanying vulnerability. In an Interactive Group, I encourage people to reach out to connect with those group members they are drawn to—to take the risk to make themselves vulnerable in this way.

How an Interactive Group Helps

The group helps people to become aware of their defenses against vulnerability and risk. If they defend by being nonchalant, someone in the group will probably point it out. If they defend by being judgmental and arrogant or by being distant and cold, they will probably get feedback about it. This gives people a chance to discover how they are defending against their desires, and to try out different behavior.

When Sharon joined the group, she had a tendency to defend against her softness and openness. She didn’t feel safe to show her desire for other people for fear of being rejected or shamed. Instead she adopted an internal stance of arrogance and judgment. “There’s something wrong with you. I’m not sure I’ll let you in.” It was a way for her to feel better about herself.  She also pretended not to need others. “I don’t care. I don’t need you.”  She wasn’t aware of these attitudes and rarely expressed them, but it would leak out in little ways, and they kept her from being vulnerable.

As the group developed, Sharon got feedback from time to time when her judgmental style would leak out. She was very aware and dedicated to her growth, and she had a courageous way of acknowledging difficult things about herself without being defensive. So when she got this feedback, she was not only willing to acknowledge that she had been judgmental but also to explore what she was defending against. She often discovered that hidden beneath the judgment was a desire to make contact with the person.

For example, in one early group, Jill was telling the group about her anger and desire to pull away from a friend. When Sharon pushed Jill hard not to do that, I encouraged Sharon to explore why she was doing this. She realized that she saw Jill as doing something similar in group, and she didn’t want Jill to pull away from her. When she told Jill this, Jill took in the feedback, but then Jill also told Sharon that Sharon had told her in an aggressive manner that made Jill pull back.

Knowing that she felt good about Jill, Sharon was surprised to hear this, but she took it seriously and became interested in changing this way of relating. I encouraged Sharon to show her positive feelings directly to Jill, and she was able to express some affection in a soft, open way. This enabled the two of them to make warm contact.

Click http://personal-growth-programs.com/an-interactive-group-story/ to read the full article.

 

Webinar: Introduction to Advanced IFS Classes – 9/13/2016

This webinar is an introduction to the Advanced IFS Classes, where you can find out more about how the classes operate and what topics we will be covering.

In the Advanced Ongoing IFS Classes, you learn intermediate and advanced techniques and understandings that go beyond what I teach in the Basic and Exiles Courses. In addition, the whole group works together on important psychological issues such as procrastIn the Advanced Ongoing IFS Classes, you learn intermediate and advanced techniques and understandings that go beyond what I teach in the Basic and Exiles Courses.ination, the inner critic, depression, eating issues, and many more. Therapists also have a chance for advanced training and consultation on IFS.

Webinar
Tuesday, Sept. 13
4:30-5:30 pm pacific time (7:30-8:30 pm eastern)
Click here to register for free

Format. The classes meet twice a month for two hours by video-conference. Each class includes teaching, lots of sharing and discussion, demonstration IFS sessions where I work with a volunteer from the class, and experiential group exercises. You pair up with each other between classes to practice doing IFS sessions with each other. This is a very important part of the class, and people tell me how much they get from working with each other. We develop a really close-knit, connected group (especially since we can see each other by video-conference), which makes it safe to be vulnerable with each other.

The texts for the class are my books, Self-Therapy, Vol. 2, and Self-Therapy, Vol 3.

Professionals. Therapists and coaches (and other helping professionals) are welcome in the classes and some classes are all professionals. For those classes, we will engage in activities aimed primarily at professionals. These classes are approved by the Center for Self-Leadership for IFS CE credit, but they are not a substitute for taking the IFS Level 1 professional training from the Center for Self-Leadership.

 Class Activities

  • Guided meditations
  • Sharing your issues and getting support from the group
  • Lecture and discussion
  • Demo sessions
  • Group and pair exercises in class
  • Pairing up for practice IFS sessions for homework
  • Supporting each other in making changes in your behavior (especially useful with topics such as procrastination or eating issues).
  • Practicing speaking for your parts as they arise in the group process.
  • Working through interpersonal issues that arise between group members

Each class will be recorded, so if you have to miss, you can listen to the recording.

Click here for the schedule of classes, detailed information about the class topics and more.

The Power of IFS A Webinar for Therapists and Coaches – 9/12/2016

In this free webinar I will discuss the power and effectiveness of IFS for therapists, coaches, and other helping professionals. I will cover the following topics:

  • The power of working with parts
  • How therapeutic change happens in IFS
  • How the client’s true self is the agent of healing
  • Working with trauma and avoiding retraumatization
  • The value of respecting defenses
  • How IFS helps therapists to be stress-free and at ease in sessions
  • How IFS is a relational therapy, but not in the usual way
  • How IFS changes faulty beliefs, in a powerful way
  • How IFS works with the body
  • Catharsis/emotional release—when it is useful and when it isn’t
  • How IFS is user-friendly for clients
  • How IFS is spiritually oriented

Mon. Sept. 12
4:30-6 pm pacific time (7:30-9 pm eastern)
Click here to register for free

 

Interactive Training Group

Group trainingThe Interactive Training Group is for therapists and group leaders who are currently leading a group or who plan to lead one in the future.

It is a full-fledged Interactive Group that also includes training and supervision on leading Interactive Groups and IFS groups. Click here for a complete description of Interactive Groups.

In addition to the usual Interactive Group work, I teach about leading groups using our group as an example. You have opportunities to ask questions and get supervision on groups that you are leading or starting. The text for the group is my book, Interactive Group Therapy. We discuss the following topics:

  • How to structure a group
  • Developmental stages of a group
  • Group process
  • Facilitating interactions
  • Incorporating IFS in group work
  • Dealing with reactions to the group leader
  • When the leader’s parts get triggered
  • Interviewing new group members
  • Dealing with difficult group members
  • Group roles
  • Group consultations

Second and Fourth Tuesdays of each month
10am – 12 noon pacific time (1-3pm eastern, 6-8pm UK)
Starts Feb. 9

Getting Started

You meet with me for a free pre-group interview to see if the group is a good fit for your professional and personal needs.
Then you can try out the group for a month and then decide whether to continue.

For more information or a free pre-group interview, email me at earley.jay@gmail.com.

Webinar: Introduction to Interactive Groups & Training Groups

This webinar introduces both regular Interactive Groups and the Interactive Training Group. Learn about how Interactive Groups work and how they can help you grow in the way you relate to others. Learn about how the Interactive Training Group operates and how you will learn to be an effective group leader/therapist.

Wednesday, January 26
10-11:30 am pacific time (1-2:30pm eastern, 6-7:30 UK)
Free
Click here to enroll.

 

IFS is an “Evidence-Based” Practice

I am very excited to announce that IFS is now posted on NREPP as an evidence-based practice.

NREPP is the National Registry for Evidence-based Programs and Practices, a national repository that is maintained by the U.S. government’s Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA).

Interventions listed in NREPP, now including IFS, have been subject to independent, rigorous scrutiny and are deemed to show significant impact on individual outcomes relating to mental health.

A comprehensive application requesting the inclusion of IFS on NREPP was based on a proof-of-concept study by Nancy Shadick, MD, MPH and Nancy Sowell, MSW, LICSW. The longitudinal randomized clinical study, which involved 70-some patients in an IFS treatment during 36 weeks with periodic follow-ups including 12 months post-intervention, published in August 2013 in the peer-reviewed Journal of Rheumatology.

SAMHSA’s independent scientific review of the study and NREPP application affirmed the following findings:

As a clinical treatment, IFS has been rated EFFECTIVE for improving general functioning and well-being. In addition, it has been rated PROMISING for each of: improving phobia, panic, and generalized anxiety disorders and symptoms; physical health conditions and symptoms; personal resilience/self-concept; and depression and depressive symptoms.

These scientific findings and the ensuing listing of IFS on NREPP affirm the vast potential of IFS Therapy for advancing emotional healing and mental well-being. In particular, they indicate promising effects on mind (depression, anxiety), body (physical health conditions), and spirit (personal resilience and self-concept).

The Pattern System for Psychotherapists, Part 3

The is the continuation The Pattern System for Psychotherapists

Dimensions

The patterns and capacities are arranged in dimensions, where each dimension corresponds to an area of psychological functioning. There are interpersonal dimensions, such as Intimacy, Conflict, and Power. There are personal dimensions, such as Accomplishment, Pleasure, and Self-Esteem. Each dimension contains two or more patterns and also two or more healthy capacities arranged in a way that makes clear which capacity is a healthy version of each pattern, and which capacity is need to transform each pattern.

You can create a client’s psychological profile by charting which pattern(s) and capacity(s) they have in each dimension. Or you can encourage a client to do this on their own and share it with you.

A Dynamic Profile

You can create a client’s psychological profile by charting which pattern(s) and capacity(s) they have in each dimension. Or you can encourage a client to do this on their own and share it with you. [Read more…]

Modes in Blending in IFS

This blog is a more technical than usual and aimed at IFS therapists. In IFS a part is “blended” with someone when they ARE the part as opposed to being in Self. This could mean that they feel the part’s emotions, they hold its beliefs, or their behavior in the world comes from this part. Recently I have realized that these represent three different modes of blending, and that a part may only be blended with someone in one or two of these ways. Furthermore, someone can be blended with two parts at the same time using two different modes.

The three modes of blending are as follows:
1. A person is feeling the part’s emotions to such an extent that they don’t feel much else. For example, a sad part takes them over so that they are flooded with sadness.
2. A person is identified with the part, in that they hold its beliefs and see the world from its perspective. For example, a man is blended with a paranoid part that believes that people are out to hurt him.
3. A person’s actions derive from a part. For example, because a woman is blended with a judgmental part, she makes contemptuous comments to people. [Read more…]