The Neuroscience of Food Addiction

My colleague, Dr. Susan Peirce Thompson, is a tenured psychology professor with a Ph.D. in Brain and Cognitive Sciences. For sixteen years she struggled with her relationship with food.

She dieted again and again, binged on cookie dough, was clinically depressed, and in her darkest hours she would lie in the fetal position and pray for her weight issue to be removed.

Then, in 2003, she discovered a solution that allowed her to shed all her excess weight. That was over 12 years ago, and she’s now among the top .01% of successful weight loss maintainers.

For years now Susan has been teaching her findings in her college course on the Psychology of Eating, and spending all of her spare time helping people one-on-one to get “Happy, Thin, and Free.”

Last year, in her morning meditation, it came to her that there are millions more who need this information. She decided to create a free video series to share the truth about the psychology and neuroscience of weight loss and food freedom.

So if you’re wondering why it’s so difficult to eat the foods you know are healthy, if you can’t figure out why you are still drawn to junk food, or if you need something to make it all click into place, you don’t want to miss this.

The key lies in understanding the neuroscience of food cravings. Just two little words make all the difference. Susan explains it beautifully.

 

Click here to get her complimentary video now.

Food Addiction Video

 

 

New Interactive Groups by Videoconference

Interactive GroupsFor the first time ever, I am excited to announce that I will be leading interactive groups by videoconference, so you can participate from anywhere in the world! I have been leading in-person groups like since 1978, but now, with the advent of videoconference technology, it is possible to have Interactive Groups online where we can see each other. So I am starting two new Interactive Groups.

Interactive Groups can improve your ability to relate:

  • in a love relationship
  • with family
  • with friends
  • on the job
  • in social settings 

An Interactive Group can help you . . .

  • Develop your capacity for intimacy and learn how to make a love relationship work
  • Become more assertive
  • Become more outgoing and socially comfortable
  • Learn what you may be doing to keep your relationships from being satisfying
  • Understand and trust people of the opposite sex . . . or of the same sex
  • Learn how to deal with anger and conflict constructively
  • Become part of a loving community of people
  • Raise your self-esteem
  • Get in touch with your personal power 

You can learn these relationship skills:

  • Being in touch with your feelings and expressing them
  • Reaching out to others confidently
  • Saying ”No” firmly
  • Allowing yourself to be open and vulnerable
  • Expressing yourself forcefully and spontaneously
  • Being comfortable relating to a group of people
  • Asking for what you really want
  • Having the courage to bring up difficult issues
  • Empathizing with others 

What Happens

  • You work directly on how you are relating to the other group members . . . in the moment. Instead of just talking about how you relate in your life, you practice interacting with others right in the group and get help as you do.
  • You get direct and honest feedback on how people are reacting to you.
  • The group provides a safe place for you to try out new, healthy ways of relating to people.
  • You learn how to feel your emotional responses while interacting with people
  • You learn how communicate openly, clearly, and assertively.
  • You learn how to access and work with the parts of you that get triggered in interactions with people, using IFS.
  • You discover your ways of relating that aren’t working for you , so you can experiment with changing them in the group.
  • You can share your life issues and struggles with the group.
  • You see other people struggling with problems similar to yours, and through this you learn about yourself and others.
  • There is a strong sense of support for each person and a warm feeling of community in the group. 

The Interactive Group Experience, a detailed article on what it is like to be in an interactive group. 

Webinar: Introduction to Interactive Groups

Tuesday, Oct. 13, 4:30-6 pm pacific time (7:30-9:30 pm eastern)
Click here to register for free

Wednesday, Oct. 14, 10 am – 12 noon pacific time (1-3 pm eastern)
Click here to register for free

Inspired Elders: Meaning, Joy, and Community in the Second Half of Life

Finding Meaning, Joy, and Community in the Second Half of LifeInspired Elders

Are you in midlife or beyond and looking for ways to enhance the quality of your life?

Robert H. Ressler’s coaching and counseling can help you find: 

  • What you most want to do with the rest of your life;
  • New or revived forms of creative expression that intrigue or excite you;
  • A social contribution with significant meaning for you;
  • A community of people who share your values;
  • Joy, fulfillment, connection with others and with deep parts of yourself.

Bob has decades of experience helping people follow their calling to create a life of meaning and joy. He has counseled and led groups for artists, writers, and social activists and lived a creative and socially engaged life of his own. He draws on the Internal Family Systems (IFS) process for resolving inner conflicts and dissolving inner blocks to fulfillment. He also brings a warm and supportive manner as well as a sense of humor to his work.

I highly recommend Bob and his work.
~Jay Earley 

Contact BobRessler@InspiredElders.com to arrange a free consultation and explore how he can help you build a more fulfilling future.

A short comment by a former client says a lot:

“There are those who help with their minds and those who help with their hearts. Dr. Ressler is that rare individual who does both simultaneously.”

Do You Have Conflict in Love Relationships?

Jay Earley, Ph.D.

Do you find yourself having too many fights with your spouse or lover? Do you end up screaming at each other? Or does one of you withdraw and the other feel abandoned? Do you end up distant or sniping at each other for days? Do you seem to have the same old fights over and over? Sometimes your rights aren’t even about important issues, but they keep happening. And they are destroying the beautiful love that you once had!

If you answered yes to some of these questions, you aren’t alone. Conflicts like this are the biggest source of problems in love relationships. It is a very common issue that affects many couples.

Does your partner act awful? Certainly not the wonderful person you fell in love with. Who is that shut-down stone? Who is that nasty shamer? He or she comes out with these awful statements that cut you to the quick. [Read more…]

New Website Devoted Entirely to the Pattern System

Pattern System Website
Jay Earley, PhD

 

I have created a new website devoted entirely to the Pattern System http://patternsystem.com/. It contains many new articles and other information about the Pattern System. It will be continually updated as the Pattern System develops.

I invite you to explore it. I would love to get any feedback you have on either the website or the Pattern System itself.

A Pleaser No Longer Now in Paperback

A Pleaser No Longer Now in Paperback
Jay Earley, PhD

 

I am pleased to announce that my book A Pleaser No Longer is now available in paperback.

Do you always go along with what other people want?
Learn to ask for what you want.

Do you find it difficult to know what you want or feel because you are so focused on other people needs and feelings?
Learn to get in touch with your feelings and desires.

Do you try to be nice in order to avoid conflict?
Explore the fears that keep you from bringing up difficult issues.

Do you frequently find yourself trying to make other people happy and avoid upsetting them?
Work through your fears about taking care of your own needs.

Do you have a hard time saying no when someone asks you to do something?
Learn to set good boundaries and stick by them.

Are you afraid to assert yourself?
Learn a practice for assertiveness in your daily life, and enjoy the feeling of personal power. [Read more…]

Procrastination as an Inner Rebellion

Jay Earley, Ph.D.

A common reason that we procrastinate is fear of failure. Another is fear of success. However, another interesting dynamics goes as follows: It is fairly common for Procrastination to be at least partly motivated by a desire to fight against a part of you that is pushing you to work hard. In other words, there are two parts of you at war-your Procrastinator and your Taskmaster. The Taskmaster Pattern involves pushing and demanding long, hard work, and also possibly judging you when you don’t meet these standards. [Read more…]

The Intimacy-Avoiding Quiz

My book Embracing Intimacy describes how to work through the Intimacy-Avoiding Pattern so you can have the love you want in your relationship. In writing this book, I identified six different ways that people avoid intimacy. You can take a quiz to determine which of these six types of Intimacy Avoiding you may have and to what degree. Click here to do that.

Underlying Motivations for Avoiding Intimacy

If you have the Intimacy-Avoiding Pattern, it means that you block yourself from having the intimacy you want in a love relationship. This is often because of unconscious (or subconscious) fears. Here is a list of common underlying fears and other motivations that prevent closeness. Which might apply to you?

Fear of Harm

  • I am afraid of being judged if I am open to my partner.
  • I am afraid of being shamed if I am open to my partner.
  • I am afraid of trusting my partner and then being betrayed.
  • If I am open and vulnerable with my partner, I am afraid of being used or exploited.
  • If I let myself be in an intimate relationship, I am afraid of being yelled at or hit.
  • If I am open to my partner, I am afraid of being intruded on, smothered, or violated.
  • If I let myself be close to my partner, I am afraid of being controlled and dominated.
  • Fear of Rejection
  • I am afraid of being abandoned if I let myself care deeply about my partner.
  • I am afraid of reaching out and being rejected by my partner.
  • I am afraid of being dismissed, discounted, or not valued by my partner. [Read more…]

Self-Expressions: A Part Art Gallery

I am ecstatic to announce the launching of Self Expressions: a free website for Part Artists to share their work and communicate with each other. Part Artists are people who represent the various parts of themselves through visual art. Many of these artists understand their internal landscape through the ideas described in Internal Family Systems Therapy, founded by Richard Schwartz, Ph.D. [Read more…]