How to Change the World without Being an Activist

troubled worldFinding Your Life Purpose as an Evolutionary Change Agent

A Videoconference Seminar
Thursday, July 7
4:30-6:30 pacific time (7:30-9:30 eastern)
Free

This isn’t just a lecture. It will be an experiential, participatory event. You will be connecting and sharing with other participants by videoconference and engaging in a guided meditation.

The world is in serious trouble—climate change, terrorism, the rise of fascism, massive income inequality, and so on. Would you like to make a difference in the world? If you are inclined toward activism or electoral politics, these are important to contribute. But maybe people think that unless they want to be an activist, there is no way to help.

This seminar will help you understand how you can make a difference in the world, by following your passion, by finding your life purpose. We will look at the big picture, understanding how humanity is going through what many people are calling The Great Turning, a transformation of every aspect of our society and culture. We will see how this is part of the grand evolution of the universe.

We will explore the multitude of ways that one can make a contribution to this great shift we are undergoing, and you will have a chance to find your life purpose as an agent of evolutionary change.

Click here to register for free.

In addition to all of my psychology books, I have also published Transforming Human Culture: Social Evolution and the Planetary Crisis. In the past, I was active with Interhelp and Psychotherapists for Social Responsibility and now I am involved with the Pachamama Alliance.

Readers Needed for Self-Therapy, Vol. 3

I have finished the rough draft of Self-Therapy, Vol. 3, which contains more advanced IFS material beyond what I covered in Self-Therapy Vols. 1 & 2. Vol. 3 shows how to apply IFS to various psychological issues, such as Eating Issues, Procrastination, the Inner Critic, Depression, Perfectionism, Anger, and Communication. I am very excited to be expanding my writings on IFS through the Self-Therapy Series.

I am looking for people who are willing to read this draft carefully and give me detailed feedback on it. You must have already read Self-Therapy. It would be nice if have also read Vol. 2, but it isn’t required.

I don’t need editing because I will have it professionally edited later. I do need feedback on organization, concepts, wording, and anything else that you notice. I need the feedback in three weeks, so I can move on to publishing the book.

I want to have both therapists/coaches and non-professionals giving me feedback on the book, so let me know which one you are.

If you want to be one of the people giving me feedback, please let me know sending me an email at earley.jay@gmail.com.

However, don’t offer to do this unless you really have the time and inclination to do it, because I will only be asking a certain number people to do this and if you offer to do it, I may not ask someone else. I may get more people offering to give me feedback than I can use, so I may not use everyone, but I appreciate your offer anyway.

Self-Therapy A Step-by-Step

Self-Therapy Vol-2

Basic IFS Course Starts September 22

 

What is IFSWhat is IFS?

Click here to watch an interview of Jay Earley about IFS by Tami Simon of Sounds True. Scroll down under What is IFS to see the video. Many people have told me how much this interview helped them to understand IFS.

Internal Family Systems Therapy (IFS) is a powerful form of individual therapy developed by Richard Schwartz, PhD, which has been spreading rapidly around the U.S. and the world. It is user-friendly, spiritually-oriented, and very effective in working with a wide variety of psychological issues.

IFS sees the mind as made up of sub-personalities, called parts, which are related to each other in an inner system.  Parts often get into conflicts with each other and act in dysfunctional ways in an attempt to protect us from pain. All of this happens largely outside our awareness, and when we do see what is happening, we frequently try to banish the parts that are causing the difficulties. Yet this is hardly ever solves the problem. IFS, on the other hand, teaches us to relate to our parts with openness, curiosity, and compassion, not judgment, which allows each part to reveal its hidden agenda and the pain it defends against.  This paves the way for healing and transformation, which can be accomplished by following the procedure taught in this course.

This course teaches you how to access Self and work with protectors. You learn how to work on yourself using IFS and how to do peer IFS counseling with other people in the class. Therapists and coaches also take the class to learn about IFS. The course is experiential; it includes practicing IFS sessions for homework in pairs, group exercises, and demonstration IFS sessions with volunteers from the class.

The course will be taught by videoconference, so we can see each other, which enhances the group connection, making it safe for you to be open and vulnerable in class. Click here for more information about the course.

Tuesdays, 9/22/15–10/29/15
4:30 pm pacific time (7:30 eastern time)
Cost: $300
Click here to register

What people are saying

I have taken tons of teleclasses and Jay’s was organized really well. Some classes are healing, but you don’t take it with you. Jay’s had both deep transformation and learning that made it easy to keep going afterward. It was an excellent course, I really loved it.
Linda McLyman, M.S., leadership consultant, Syracuse, NY

Fall 2015 Schedule of Webinars and Classes

Here is a summary of our introductory webinars and classes scheduled for the fall of 2015.

Advanced IFS Classes

Jay Earley, PhD

In the Advanced Ongoing IFS Classes you learn advanced techniques and understandings that go beyond what I teach in the Basic and Exiles Courses. In addition, the whole group works together on important psychological issues such as procrastination, the inner critic, depression, eating issues, and many more. Therapists also have a chance for advanced training and consultation on IFS. These classes are by videoconference.

Webinar: Introduction to Advanced IFS Classes
Tuesday, 9/8/15, 10 am
Click here to enroll for free

Monday, 9/14/15, 4:30 pm
Tuesday, 9/15/15, 10 am

Advanced IFS Class 1: First and third Wednesdays of each month
Time: 4:30-6:30 pm pacific time (7:30-9:30 eastern)
Already started

Advanced IFS Class 2: Second and fourth Wednesdays of each month
Time: 4:30-6:30 pm pacific time (7:30-9:30 eastern)
Already started

If you want to join Class 1 or 2, email Jay at earley.jay@gmail.com.

Advanced IFS Class 3: First and third Mondays of each month
Time: 4:30-6:30 pm pacific time (7:30-9:30 eastern)
Starts: Sept. 21

Advanced IFS Class 4: First and third Tuesdays of each month
Time: 10am-12noon pacific time (1-3pm eastern)
Starts: Sept. 22

Click here to enroll for Class 3 or 4 (go to step 3).
All classes cost: $50/session, $100/month


IFS Basic and Exiles Courses

Jay Earley, PhD

Webinar: Introduction to IFS
Tuesday, 9/8/15, 4:30 pm
Click here to enroll for free

Tuesday, 9/15/15, 4:30 pm
Thursday, 9/17/15, 4:30 pm

IFS Basic Course (by videoconference)

You learn how to access Self and work with protectors.
Tuesdays, 9/22/15–10/29/15
4:30-6:30 pm pacific time (7:30-9:30 eastern time)
Cost: $250
Click here to register

IFS Exiles Course (by videoconference)

You learn how to work with exiles and heal them.
Tuesdays, 11/3/15–12/8/15
4:30-6:30 pm pacific time (7:30-9:30 eastern time)
Cost $250
Click here to register


Witnessed IFS Sessions

Bonnie Weiss, LCSW & Everett Considine, IFSCP

Witnessing an IFS session can be very powerful for both the people witnessing and the person who is doing the session.  If you want a chance to have a free IFS session or just want to witness and lend your compassionate presence to the experience, please join us!

9/10/15 – 10/19/15 (8 Consecutive Thursdays)
5:00 – 6:30 pm pacific (8:00 – 9:30 pm eastern)
Attend any sessions you like
Free
Click here to register.


IFS and the Enneagram

Everett Considine, IFSCP

  • Learn about the Enneagram through an IFS lens.
  • What the 9 Types look like from an IFS perspective.
  • How to spot parts that have a specific Enneagram type during IFS Sessions.
  • What the different challenges are for the 9 types when working with their parts.
  • How wings and connecting points show up in IFS sessions.

Webinar: Intro to IFS and the Enneagram
Monday October 26th
4:30 to 6:00 PM PST (7:30 to 9:00 EST)
Free
Click here to register

IFS and the Enneagram Course (by videoconference)
Each week we will focus on one of the 9 Enneagram types including a guided meditation to connect with that type of part experientially.
Mondays 4:30 – 6:00 pm pacific (7:30 to 9:00 pm eastern)
Nov 2, 9, 16, 30 Dec 7, 14, 21, Jan 4, 11
Cost $350
Contact Everett at everettconsidine@gmail.com to enroll

 

Pattern Quizzes in Self-Therapy Journey

There are 23 different patterns in Self-Therapy Journey. These come from the Pattern System, which is a periodic table for psychology.Dimensions of the Pattern System

I have created two quizzes—one for interpersonal patterns and one for personal patterns—to help you determine which patterns you have that you might want to work on.

There are two quizzes just to keep there from being too many questions in each quiz. Each quiz takes between 4 and 8 minutes to complete.

You can click here to take either quiz.

You will get a score for each pattern along with a description of the pattern and information on how to work on changing it.

 

What Is An Interlocking Attraction

Based on the Pattern System™, an interlocking attraction involves being attracted to someone because their way of relating meshes with yours, in that it matches how you expect people to relate to you based on your interpersonal patterns.

For example, if you have a Controlling Pattern, which involves expecting to be in charge of your relationship and run the show, you will be attracted to people who have a People-Pleasing Pattern because they will comply with your desire to be in control and will try to please you.

An interlocking attraction isn’t necessarily a problem. If your way of relating is relatively healthy and you are attracted to people whose style fits with yours in a healthy way, this will work out well. For example, if, instead of being Controlling, you have the Assertiveness Capacity, you can take charge when needed and can also cooperate with others or even be receptive when that is called for. This is because your Assertiveness Capacity isn’t driven by underlying fears. As a result, you can stand up for yourself and exert power, but you don’t have a need to always win out.

The Controlling Pattern is a problematic version of the Assertiveness Capacity. Or you could say that the Assertiveness Capacity is a healthy version of the Controlling Pattern. So if you are attracted to someone who has a capacity that interlocks with a capacity of yours, this will probably work out well. If you are Assertive and are attracted to a Cooperator, this is promising.

Interlocking Attractions

A Cooperative person can work together with people easily and naturally, but they don’t have a need to give to others or please them. This interlocking attraction will work out well because the two of you won’t get stuck in your preferred way of relating, and you will be able to learn from each other’s strengths. You won’t get stuck in always having to assert your will, and you will be able to learn from your partner’s ability to cooperate.

However, if you are Controlling and are attracted to a Pleaser, this will probably lead to trouble. At first, things will go well because you are each getting what you want and expect from the other. However, after being involved with each other for months or years, there will probably be difficulties. When the hidden problem with your partner (and yourself) becomes more apparent, the very quality that drew you to your partner will become the reason for serious conflict in your relationship.

Let’s look at how this might happen. If you have a Controlling Pattern, you may be very happy with a People-Pleaser at first because they seem to want everything that you want; they seem to think and feel the same as you do. However, over time things will change. You may begin to realize that your partner doesn’t really agree with you but is just going along with you. You may start to yearn for someone with a backbone who has opinions and desires of their own. You may get annoyed at your partner for being so compliant with other people. You may long for a partner who has some spark, who is their own person, not just a doormat.

The same interlocking attraction often goes in the other direction. People-Pleasers are often attracted to Controllers because they don’t really let themselves know what they want. They prefer a partner who is strong, in charge, and knows what to do, so the Controller can take the lead and make the Pleaser’s life work.

This has been an excerpt from my book The Pattern System.

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Pattern System BookDo you wonder…

  • Why do my partner and I get into so many fights?
  • Why is my partner acting that way?
  • What is going on to keep me stuck in life?
  • What am I doing to turn people off?
  • Why am I attracted to the wrong people?
  • How can I understand my personality?

The Pattern System is a breakthrough in understanding your personality that is oriented toward psychological healing and personal growth. It also helps you to understand other people—why they respond as they do, what makes them tick.

Once your have understood the Pattern System and explored yourself according to its model, you will come away with a comprehensive map of your psyche. You will be able to see your strengths and your defenses, your places of pain and how you compensate for them. You will understand the structure of your inner conflicts and see the leading edge of your growth. 

If you are a therapist, coach, or other professional, do you ask yourself…

  • How can I understand my clients’ personalities in a fuller way?
  • Why is that client’s therapy not moving?
  • What is going on in my relationship with that client?
  • What is the primary issue for that client?
  • What are the psychodynamics underlying that behavior?

The Pattern System: A Periodic Table for Psychology can help you answer these questions. You can fully understand your clients’ personality patterns—not just their “type” but the detailed structure of their psychology.

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