Transforming Your Inner Critic – A View Through Two Lenses

Freedom from Shame and Inadequacy: Transforming Your Inner Critic
A View Through Two Lenses

Jay Earley, PhD, and Ann Weiser Cornell

  • Do you feel bad about yourself?Inner Critic
  • Do you hear a voice calling you worthless and unlovable?
  • Do you struggle with self-hatred?
  • Is there a voice that constantly doubts your abilities?
  • Do you believe that you’ll never get anywhere?

The Inner Critic is the part of you
that judges you, pushes you, and undermines your self-confidence. It can make you feel worthless, ashamed, guilty, depressed, or inadequate. It seems to come up especially when you are expanding, doing more, being bigger. In fact, there isn’t just one Inner Critic, but a whole flock of them, hovering anxiously and ready to attack or push when you want to take new steps in your life.

You have so much you could contribute to the world if you just didn’t sabotage yourself from inside! Join Jay Earley and Ann Weiser Cornell for an inspiring and practical two-hour webinar that will help you free yourself from undermining inner attacks so you can move into living the life you were born to live.

What’s special about this webinar:

  • You’ll learn surprising truths about the positive intent of Inner Critic parts
  • You’ll understand the dynamics of inner criticism and how to transform it to inner support
  • You’ll learn powerful practices that you can use immediately in your life
  • You learn from two different teachers and methods

Watch Jay and Ann together! These major figures from IFS (Internal Family Systems Therapy) and IRF (Inner Relationship Focusing) rarely present together. We will explore the similarities and differences between our powerful methods in a lively, interactive dialogue.

Learn how to develop self-esteem and self-confidence, so you can

  • Accept yourself just as you are.
  • Know that you are lovable.
  • Feel confident in what you can do.
  • Feel proud of your capacities and accomplishments.
  • Feel a deep sense of self-worth.

Other reasons to take the webinar:

  • You are a Healing Professional whose clients who struggle with shame, low self-esteem, or inadequacy?
  • You are curious about how to work with a “part” or how to use a “felt sense”?
  • You have been wondering how IFS and IRF are similar and different? 

Wednesday, April 19
1-3 pm Pacific time (4-6 pm Eastern time)
 

Click here to register for free

Feel free to register even if you can’t attend at that time. A recording will be available afterward.

 

 

Webinar: Introduction to Interactive Groups 9-15-2016

Interactive GroupsThis webinar will introduce you to Interactive Groups and explain how they work and what you can get from one.

Thursday, Sept. 15
4:30-6 pm pacific time (7:30-9 pm eastern)
Click here to register for free

Register even if you can make the time, because you will receive a recording afterwards

An Interactive Group can help you . . .

  • Develop your capacity for intimacy and learn how to make a love relationship work
  • Become more assertive
  • Become more outgoing and socially comfortable
  • Learn what you may be doing to keep your relationships from being satisfying
  • Understand and trust people of the opposite sex . . . or of the same sex
  • Learn how to deal with anger and conflict constructively
  • Become part of a loving community of people
  • Raise your self-esteem
  • Get in touch with your personal power

You can learn these relationship skills:

  • Being in touch with your feelings and expressing them
  • Reaching out to others confidently
  • Saying No firmly
  • Allowing yourself to be open and vulnerable
  • Expressing yourself forcefully and spontaneously
  • Being comfortable relating to a group of people
  • Asking for what you really want
  • Having the courage to bring up difficult issues
  • Empathizing with others

What Happens

  • You work directly on how you are relating to the other group members . . . in the moment. Instead of just talking about how you relate in your life, you practice interacting with others right in the group and get help as you do.
  • You get direct and honest feedback on how people are reacting to you.
  • The group provides a safe place for you to try out new, healthy ways of relating to people.
  • You learn how to feel your emotional responses while interacting with people
  • You learn how communicate openly, clearly, and assertively.
  • You learn how to access and work with the parts of you that get triggered in interactions with people, using IFS.
  • You discover your ways of relating that aren’t working for you , so you can experiment with changing them in the group.
  • You can share your life issues and struggles with the group.
  • You see other people struggling with problems similar to yours, and through this you learn about yourself and others.
  • There is a strong sense of support for each person and a warm feeling of community in the group.

Format

They are ongoing groups which meet by videoconference, so we all can see each other, enhancing the group connection. The groups meet twice a month, and you meet with me for an individual consultation on the group every 3 months.

Types of Interactive Groups

  1. Regular Interactive Group
  2. Interactive Therapists’ Group
  3. Interactive Couples Group

Click here to Learn More about Interactive Groups

 

 

Fall 2016: Upcoming Webinars, Classes and Groups

Here is a listing of all of our new webinars, seminars, classes, and groups for this fall plus our ongoing classes and groups. All of the introductory webinars and seminars are free, and all of the webinars will be recorded, so feel free to sign up for them even if you can’t make the time, because you will receive a link to the recording afterward.

Introductory Webinars and Seminars

Webinar: Introduction to Self-Therapy Journey
Jay Earley, PhD
Thursday, Sept. 8
4:30-6:30 pm pacific time (7:30-9:30 pm eastern)
Click here to register for free

The Power of IFS: A Webinar for Therapists
Jay Earley, PhD
Mon. Sept. 12
4:30-6 pm pacific time (7:30-9 pm eastern)
Click here to register for free

Webinar: Introduction to Advanced IFS Classes
Jay Earley, PhD
Tuesday, Sept. 13
4:30-5:30 pm pacific time (7:30-8:30 pm eastern)
Click here to register for free

Webinar: Introduction to Interactive Groups
Jay Earley, PhD
Thursday, Sept. 15
4:30-6 pm pacific time (7:30-9 pm eastern)
Click here to register for free

Webinar: Transforming Your Inner Critic Using IFS
Jay Earley, PhD
Monday, Sept. 19
4:30-6:30 pm pacific time (7:30-9:30 pm eastern)
Click here to register for free

Drop-in Interactive Group
Jay Earley, PhD
Thursday, Sept. 22
4:30-6:30 pm pacific time (7:30-9:30 pm eastern)
Click here to register for free

Seminar: How to Change the World without (Necessarily) Being an Activist
Tuesday, Sept. 27
4:30-6:30 pm pacific time (7:30-9:30 pm eastern)
Click here to register for free

Experiential Introduction to Internal Family Systems (IFS)
Everett Considine, IFSCP
Thursday, October 6
5:00-6:30 pm Pacific (8:00-9:30 pm Eastern)
Click here to register for free

Videoconference Courses

Transforming Your Inner Critic using IFS
Jay Earley, PhD
Mondays, 4:30-6:30 pm pacific time (7:30-9:30 pm eastern)
Sept. 26, Oct. 10, 17, 24, Nov. 7, 14
Cost: $250
Click here to register

Australia IFS Class – Series 5
Bonnie Weiss, LCSW
Sat. Oct 8, 22, 2016, Nov 5, 19 AEST
Equivalent times in US Pacific/Eastern timezone – all welcome!
Oct 7, 21, Nov 6, 3-5:00 pm Pacific | 6-8 pm Eastern, Nov 18 — US
2-4:00 pm Pacific | 5-7 pm Eastern
Cost: $180
Click here to enroll

6 Week Basic IFS Course
Led by Everett Considine, IFSCP
Class Dates: Thursday, Oct 13th, 20th, 27th, Nov 3rd,  10th,  17th
Class Time: 4:30-6:30 pm Pacific (7:30-9:30 pm Eastern)
Cost: $275 – $475
Click here to enroll

Explore the Enneagram through the Systemic Lens of IFS
10 Week Class (by videoconference)
Mondays
4:30 – 6:00 pm pacific (7:30 – 9:00 pm eastern)
Oct 17, 24, 31, Nov 7, 14, 21, 28, Dec 5, 12, 19
Cost $350
Contact Everett at everettconsidine@gmail.com to enroll

Ongoing Videoconference Groups and Classes

Advanced Ongoing IFS Classes 
Taught by Jay Earley, PhD
$50/session, $100/month
Email Jay at earley.jay@gmail.com for a free interview about joining a class.

Class 1: First and third Wednesdays of each month
Time: 4:30-6:30 pm pacific time (7:30-9:30 pm eastern)

Class 2: Second and fourth Wednesdays of each month
Time: 4:30-6:30 pm pacific time (7:30-9:30 pm eastern)

Class 3: First and third Tuesdays of each month
Time: 10 am-12 noon pacific time (1-3 pm eastern, 6-8 pm UK)

Interactive Groups 
Led by Jay Earley, PhD
$120/month, including consultations
Email Jay at earley.jay@gmail.com for a free pre-group interview

Group 1: Regular Interactive Group
First and third Tuesdays of each month
4:30-6:30 pm pacific time (7:30-9:30 pm eastern)

Group 2: Interactive Therapists’ Group
Second and fourth Wednesdays of each month
10am- 12 noon pacific time (1-3 pm eastern, 6-8 pm UK)

Group 3: Interactive Couples Group
Second and fourth Thursdays of each month
4:30-6:30 pm pacific time (7:30-9:30 pm eastern)
Starts Oct. 13

IFS Consultation/Training Group for IFS therapists
Led by Jay Earley, PhD
Once a month
Thursdays 10 AM -12 noon pacific time (1 -3 PM eastern)
$70/session
Email earley.jay@gmail.com or call 415-339-8060 for more information or to join.

 

 

April 25 – Introduction to Advanced IFS Classes

Please join us on April 25 for the Introduction to Advanced IFS Classes Webinar.

In the Advanced Ongoing IFS Classes you learn intermediate and advanced techniques and understandings that go beyond what I teach in the Basic and Exiles Courses. In addition, the whole group works together on important psychological issues such as procrastination, the inner critic, depression, eating issues, and many more. Therapists also have a chance for advanced training and consultation on IFS.

There are 4 classes.

Click here for detailed information about the Advanced IFS Classes, schedules, and how to join.

I am so grateful for this offering from Jay and the opportunity to deepen and expand my understanding of IFS (which I adore).  Jay has structured the class so thoughtfully, resulting in a wonderfully safe and respectful container for learning and processing.  In addition, he presents a deliciously comprehensive curriculum, and best of all, invaluable demonstrations each session.  This is pure gold.  On top of all of this, Jay has assembled a fantastic group of practitioners as participants, whom–thanks to Jay’s video-conferencing wizardry–I can see and interact with in a way that feels intimate and dynamic.
— Carolyn Hinman, JD, CCHT

Webinar: Introduction to Advanced IFS Classes
Jay Earley, PhD
Monday, April 25
5-6 pm pacific time (8-9 pm eastern)
Click here to register for free

Register even if you can’t attend. You will receive a replay afterward.

 

 

 

The Power of IFS Webinar: December 8

The Power of Internal Family Systems Therapy (IFS)
A Webinar for Therapists and Coaches

IIFS Webinarsn this free IFS webinar I will discuss the power and effectiveness of IFS for therapists, coaches, and other helping professionals. I will cover the following topics:

  • The power of working with parts
  • How therapeutic change happens in IFS
  • How the client’s true self is the agent of healing
  • Working with trauma and avoiding retraumatization
  • The value of respecting defenses
  • How IFS helps therapists to be stress-free and at ease in sessions
  • How IFS is a relational therapy, but not in the usual way
  • How IFS changes faulty beliefs, in a powerful way
  • How IFS works with the body
  • Catharsis/emotional release—when it is useful and when it isn’t
  • How IFS is user-friendly for clients
  • How IFS is spiritually oriented

At the end, I will discuss options for learning more about IFS.

Tuesday, Dec. 8
4:30-6:00 pm pacific time (7:30-9 pm eastern)
Click here to enroll for free

Feel free to sign up even if you can’t attend. You will receive a link to a replay of the webinar.

Self-Therapy Journey Demonstration Webinar – November 30

Self-Therapy-JourneySelf-Therapy Journey (STJ) is an online tool for psychological exploration and healing. You get the life-changing power of psychotherapy for a tiny fraction of the cost.

You can think of STJ as a very sophisticated and interactive set of self-help books, plus guided meditations and customized reports. It is based on the Pattern System and Internal Family Systems Therapy. Check it out at www.selftherapyjourney.com.

This free webinar will help you learn about STJ to decide if they want to use it. I will provide an overview of STJ and a demonstration of how to use it on the web, which will include almost every page. I will also answer questions about STJ.

Monday, November 30
4:30-6:30 PM pacific time (7:30-9:30 PM eastern time)
Free
Click here to enroll for free.

Feel free to register even if you can’t make that time. A replay of the webinar will be sent to you afterwards.

What can you do with Self-Therapy Journey?

  • Understand yourself psychologically
  • Resolve problems like procrastination, shyness, or anger
  • Gain self-confidence, strength, openness
  • Transform behavior patterns, such as dependency or people-pleasing
  • Achieve intimacy, success, contentment

How does Self-Therapy Journey work?

  • You take charge of your growth, in private, at your convenience
  • There are guided meditations for healing your emotional wounds
  • You get a customized report for each pattern, wound, and capacity
  • You engage in homework practices to change your behavior
  • You systematically work on your issues and track your progress

What Users are Saying

Self-Therapy Journey is brilliant. It’s been an absolutely great experience to use it. Every time I had a thought like, “What about this?” there was something in the online system to handle it.
— Athena Murphy

I think Self-Therapy Journey is immensely helpful. You can go as deep as you’re willing or want to go.
— Elizabeth Moulton, Clinical Psychologist

The problems that I worked on using Self-Therapy Journey have been resolved.
— Cathy Duke, Licensed Counselor

September Schedule of Jay Earley’s Webinars and Classes

Here is a quick summary of my introductory webinars and classes scheduled for September, 2015.

Tuesday, 9/8/15, 10 am Webinar: Introduction to Advanced IFS Class
Monday, 9/14/15, 4:30 pm Webinar: Introduction to Advanced IFS Class
Tuesday, 9/15/15, 10 am Webinar: Introduction to Advanced IFS Class
Monday, 9/21/15, 4:30-6:30 pm Advanced IFS Class, first meeting of Monday Class
Tuesday, 9/22/15, 10am – 12noon Advanced IFS Class, first meeting of Tuesday Class
Tuesday, 9/8/15, 4:30 pm Webinar: Introduction to IFS
Tuesday, 9/15/15, 4:30 pm Webinar: Introduction to IFS
Thursday, 9/17/15, 4:30 pm Webinar: Introduction to IFS
Tuesdays, 9/22/15–10/29/15 IFS Basic Course

For more information please visit Schedule of Seminars, Courses, and Groups

Self-Therapy Journey Demonstration Webinar

Self-TherapyJourneyLogoSelf-Therapy Journey (STJ) is an online tool for psychological exploration and healing. You get the life-changing power of psychotherapy for a tiny fraction of the cost.

This free webinar will help you learn about STJ to decide if they want to use it. I will provide an overview of STJ and a demonstration of how to use it on the web, which will include almost every page. I will also answer questions about STJ.

You can think of STJ as a very sophisticated and interactive set of self-help books, plus guided meditations and customized reports. It is based on the Pattern System and Internal Family Systems Therapy. Check it out at www.selftherapyjourney.com.

Tuesday, Aug. 25
4:30-6:30 PM pacific time (7:30-9:30 PM eastern time)
Free
Click here to enroll for free.

Feel free to register even if you can’t make that time. A replay of the webinar will be sent to you afterwards.

What can you do with Self-Therapy Journey?

  • Understand yourself psychologically
  • Resolve problems like procrastination, shyness, or anger
  • Gain self-confidence, strength, openness
  • Transform behavior patterns, such as dependency or people-pleasing
  • Achieve intimacy, success, contentment

 How does Self-Therapy Journey work?

  • You take charge of your growth, in private, at your convenience
  • There are guided meditations for healing your emotional wounds
  • You get a customized report for each pattern, wound, and capacity
  • You engage in homework practices to change your behavior
  • You systematically work on your issues and track your progress

What Users are Saying

Self-Therapy Journey is brilliant. It’s been an absolutely great experience to use it. Every time I had a thought like, “What about this?” there was something in the online system to handle it. — Athena Murphy

I think Self-Therapy Journey is immensely helpful. You can go as deep as you’re willing or want to go. — Elizabeth Moulton, Clinical Psychologist

The problems that I worked on using Self-Therapy Journey have been resolved. — Cathy Duke, Licensed Counselor

Click here to enroll for the webinar.

 

 

Interpersonal Patterns Webinar

The Interpersonal Dimension GroupThe Pattern System is a way of understanding your personality in a way that can lead directly to psychological healing and personal growth.

It also helps you to understand other people—why they respond as they do, what makes them tick. It gives you a much more detailed understanding of yourself than other personality systems that assign you a personality type (or a few types). Once you have understood the Pattern System and explored yourself according to its model, you will come away with a comprehensive map of your psyche.

This webinar will focus on interpersonal patterns—how you interact and relate with other people. You will be able to see your interpersonal strengths and problematic areas. You will understand the ways that you can assert personal power, communicate clearly, resolve conflicts, reach out to people, trust people, and have closeness in your life. And you will see the patterns of yours that prevent you from doing these things.

You will learn about the 9 dimensions of interpersonal relating, and assess your strengths and weaknesses in each dimension.

We will also discuss how you can transform your problematic patterns of relating into healthy interpersonal capacities.

Tuesday, August 11
4:30 – 6:00 pm pacific time (7:30-9 pm eastern time)
Free

Register here: http://app.webinarjam.net/register/91/16ab395b38

Please register even if you can’t make that time. A replay of the webinar will be sent to you afterwards.

Webinar on the Victim Pattern July 14

VictimPattern-200px.jpgThe Victim Pattern Webinar was scheduled for a few months ago but I ran into a technical problem that kept it from happening. That has now been fixed so it is now rescheduled. I have been very busy getting the new version of Self-Therapy Journey up and running, so I didn’t have time to reschedule this webinar until now.

If you have the Victim Pattern, you believe that your life situation is impossible or that someone has wronged you. In other words, you believe that your problems exist because bad things were done to you. Granted, difficult things may have happened in your life, as they do in all our lives. The difference is that you feel like the victim of these circumstances, and you believe that there is nothing you can do about it.

With this Pattern, you may find yourself continually thinking about how others have wronged or hurt you. You make excuses to yourself for why you cannot get your life together, feeling cheated and helpless to do anything about it. You may feel angry or depressed about your circumstances and helpless to change your life for the better. In the back of your mind, you may even feel entitled to special time and attention from others, especially those whom you feel have wronged you.

This webinar will help you to determine if you have a Victim Pattern–or if your partner (or someone else close to you) does. You will learn how the pattern operates, what its underlying dynamics are, and how to change it, using IFS and Self-Therapy Journey. You will also learn how to relate to someone with the Victim Pattern and how to encourage them to change their pattern.

You will learn how to develop the Responsibility Capacity instead of the Victim Pattern. Responsibility involves recognizing that you have choices available to you at all times and that the direction of your life is up to you. The Responsibility Capacity helps you to see that there are many small and large things you can do every day that influence the flow of your life. You can see that it’s ultimately your job to figure out your life and to do your best to identify and attain your goals. This leads you to a sense of personal power and the ability to make your life work.

Tuesday, July 14
4:30-6 PM pacific time (7:30-9 PM eastern)
Free

Click and Register for the Self-Therapy Journey Webinar

 

 

Please register even if you can’t make that time. A replay of the webinar will be sent to you afterwards.