Patterns of Relating Course

The Pattern System is a systematic way of understanding your personality in a way that can lead directly to psychological healing and personal growth. It also helps you to understand other people—why they respond as they do, what makes them tick. It gives you a much more detailed understanding of yourself than other personality systems.

Once you have understood the Pattern System and explored yourself according to its model, you will come away with a comprehensive map of your psyche. You will be able to see your strengths and your defenses, your places of pain and how you compensate for them. You will understand the structure of your inner conflicts and see the leading edge of your growth. The Pattern System will make clear what you need to explore next to resolve the issues that are most important to you. You will know where there is underlying pain, shame, or fear that must be healed. You will know which psychological capacities of yours are hidden and can be brought out, and which capacities you can develop (or are already developing) to make your life happier and more productive.

This Course deals with the major interpersonal patterns, giving you a clear view of how you relate to others, and what you need to do to create relationships that are open, satisfying, and close, and where you feel free to be yourself. This applies to love relationships, friendships, and relationships with family, at work, and in every area of your life.

Each week we will explore a dimension of relating—for example, intimacy, power, care, social relating, and conflict. In a given dimension, you will explore your problematic patterns of relating and your healthy capacities. For each pattern, you will explore your subconscious motivation, it origins in your childhood, and how to transform it.