Interactive/IFS Groups

Interactive/IFS Groups can improve your ability to relate:

  • in a love relationship
  • with family
  • with friends
  • on the job
  • in social settings

An Interactive/IFS Group can help you . . .

  • Develop your capacity for intimacy and learn how to make a love relationship work
  • Become more assertive
  • Become more outgoing and socially comfortable
  • Learn what you may be doing to keep your relationships from being satisfying
  • Understand and trust people of the opposite sex . . . or of the same sex
  • Learn how to deal with anger and conflict constructively
  • Become part of a loving community of people
  • Raise your self-esteem
  • Get in touch with your personal power

You can learn these relationship skills:

  • Being in touch with your feelings and expressing them
  • Speaking for your parts, not acting them out
  • Reaching out to others confidently
  • Saying ”No” firmly
  • Allowing yourself to be open and vulnerable
  • Expressing yourself forcefully and spontaneously
  • Being comfortable relating to a group of people
  • Asking for what you really want
  • Having the courage to bring up difficult issues
  • Empathizing with others

What Happens

  • You work directly on how you are relating to the other group members . . . in the moment. Instead of just talking about how you relate in your life, you practice interacting with others right in the group and get help as you do.
  • You get direct and honest feedback on how people are reacting to you.
  • The group provides a safe place for you to try out new, healthy ways of relating to people.
  • You learn how to feel your emotional responses and identify the parts that are activated while interacting with people
  • You learn how communicate openly, clearly, and assertively.
  • You learn how to access and work with the parts of you that get triggered in interactions with people, using IFS.
  • You discover your ways of relating that aren’t working for you , so you can experiment with changing them in the group.
  • You can share your life issues and struggles with the group.
  • You see other people struggling with problems similar to yours, and through this you learn about yourself and others.
  • There is a strong sense of support for each person and a warm feeling of community in the group.

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The groups meet by videoconference, so we all can see each other, which enhances the group connection.
The groups meet twice a month, and you meet with me for an individual consultation on the group every 3 months.
Each meeting is recorded, so if you miss one, you can watch the recording.
These groups are for personal growth. They are not psychotherapy.
Cost: $120/month, including consultations

The groups are limited to 8 people.
They are ongoing groups, so once you join, you are expected to attend all sessions until you choose to leave.
They are long-term ongoing groups, because you are working on your relationships with the other group members, not just your initial interactions.

Getting Started

You meet with me for a free pre-group interview to see if the group is a good fit for you.
Then you can try out the group for a month and then decide whether to continue.
For more information or a free pre-group interview, email me at

Group 1: Regular Interactive Group

First and third Tuesdays of each month
4:30-6:30 pm pacific time (7:30-9:30 eastern)

Group 2 and 3: Interactive Therapists’ Groups 

The Interactive Therapists’ Groups are for therapists, coaches, and other helping professionals who want to be in a group with other professionals, and they provide some training and supervision on leading Interactive/IFS Groups.

Group 2
Second and fourth Wednesdays of each month
10am- 12 noon pacific time (1-3 pm eastern, 6-8 pm UK)

Group 3
First and third Wednesdays of each month
10am- 12 noon pacific time (1-3 pm eastern, 6-8 pm UK)

Jay Earley, PhD, is known for his innovation in the group field. He is the author of Interactive Group Therapy: Integrating Interpersonal, Action-Oriented, and Psychodynamic Approaches. During his ten years on the east coast, Jay was Director of the Group Therapy Center of Long Island, where he trained group leaders in this method. He has written a number of articles on interactive groups and made numerous presentations at regional and national psychotherapy conferences.

Jay is also an expert on Internal Family Systems Therapy (IFS). He is the author of Self-Therapy, Freedom from Your Inner Critic, and many other IFS books and audio products. He has taught IFS to both therapists and the general public for many years.

What Group Members are Saying

As a veteran of 30 years of therapies and groups, I have experienced both the mediocre and the masterful in the psychotherapy profession. Never before in such a short time have I received so much growth, power, nurturing, conflict and resolution as I have in Jay’s interactive group. My expectations, already high, have been far exceeded. Jay is consistently present, vulnerable, ego-less, accepting, challenging, available, and impersonally caring. What I had hoped to learn for my clients has been given to me in greater measure personally. Jay’s model is learnable and adaptable. It has affected my psychotherapy work and life.
– Dr. F. Towne Allen, psychotherapist

I think it’s a testament to the efficacy of Jay Earley and his relationship group that, unlike some therapy and group experiences I’ve had over the years, I am clearly aware of a number of specific and valuable interpersonal skills I have developed there. I am able to address people in conflict situations in ways that help them hear me without defensive distortions and escalated bad feelings. In turn, I am more able to listen without defensive reactivity. I learned the importance of these skills a long time ago, but the group has helped me actually be able to practice them in the real world. I’ve become aware of lifelong patterns of thinking and behaving that have been problematic for me, and I’ve come to understand their connections to parts of my personality that have been in pain since they were formed in my childhood. Most importantly, I’m learning how to care for and heal those parts. By being able to take in and validate the good feelings people have for me, I have come to appreciate myself more and accept my good qualities. I’ve become a much better friend to myself. I’ve learned the great pleasure of being an authentic person, right or wrong, and of the satisfaction that comes from taking the risks in relationships to cultivate that authenticity.
– Jim Spohn

Jay Earley is a thinker, doer, and trainer in the practice of Gestalt group work. His training groups and workshops have been taken by therapists and trainers from all the major Gestalt training centers in the New York area. California’s gain is New York’s loss! Whether you want to learn how to do group therapy or be a participant, Jay’s gentle style and unique approach will make the difference.
– Marla Silverman, Ph.D., Dirctor of Training, New York Gestalt Center for Psychotherapy and Training.


Once you have completed the pre-group interview and have decided to join a group, you enroll by paying for the first two meetings of the group, which is $120. You can pay in two ways:

1. Venmo is an app that allow you to pay easily. Just send the money to

2. To pay by check, mail a check made out to
Jay Earley
140 Marina Vista Ave.
Larkspur, CA 94939

If you are outside the U.S., you may pay using PayPal. Send the payment to