Pairings for Inner Critic Course Small Groups

Many people do best in working on psychological material like this if they have someone supporting them that they trust. Other people like to work alone. If you have a friend who would be a good partner for you, feel free to use them.

Unless you prefer to work alone or have you own partner, we will pair you up with a different person from your small group each week. This will continue until you discover that the person you are paired up with on a certain week feels like someone you want to continue with. If that person agrees, then the two of you will be “buddies” for the course. Notify your group leader or monitor, and they will tell my assistant MJ to not include you in the rotating pairings any more. That way you can continue to pair with your buddy.

There are two ways to work with a partner or buddy:

1. Your partner could be with you as you work on Self-Therapy Journey, either in person or on the phone. They can follow what is happening on your computer by using a program that shows it on their computer. This can be done through Skype screen sharing, or you can use a program like mikogo to share screens. This way they can provide emotional support and be a sounding board as you are using the application.

2. You could talk with your partner after each session (and possibly show them your reports) to share with them what you did and how it affected you.

It can be easier to be thoughtful and introspective when you are talking with another person. And perhaps the biggest advantage of a partner is that they can help you stay with STJ. You tell them that you are planning to work with Self-Therapy Journey on, say, Tuesday and you make plans to talk with them that night or the next day. This will help you follow through and do it. This accountability will especially be helpful when you are doing the homework practice that you set up in Stage 5.

It is especially important to have a supportive partner when you are working on psychological issues that stir up painful emotions or strong defenses. If you find yourself avoiding Self-Therapy Journey or getting too upset emotionally, a supportive partner or buddy might help you stay with the process.