March 26: IFS Introductory Seminar

This free introductory seminar will introduce IFS and give you a taste of working on yourself using this approach. It will include experiential exercises and a demonstration IFS session. You can ask me questions about the model and about the upcoming Basic IFS Class.

The IFS Idea

IFS is based on the idea that the psyche consists of sub-personalities, called parts, which make up a Introduction to IFSkind of inner system. Parts often get into conflicts with each other and act in dysfunctional ways in an attempt to protect us from pain. All of this happens largely outside our awareness, and when we do see what is happening, we frequently try to banish the parts that are causing the difficulties. Yet this is hardly ever solves the problem.

IFS, on the other hand, teaches us to relate to our parts with openness, curiosity, and compassion, not judgment, which allows each part to reveal its hidden agenda and the pain it defends against. This paves the way for healing and transformation, which can be accomplished by following the detailed IFS procedure.

The psyche is largely organized to protect itself from pain, which is why IFS makes a distinction between parts that are in pain and parts that protect us from it. Protectors are parts that handle the external world and protect against vulnerability and pain. Exiles are young child parts that are in pain from the past. Protectors try to arrange our lives so that people can’t hurt our exiles, and when this does happen, protectors shut us down emotionally to keep us from feeling the pain. This noble effort doesn’t really work; the suffering still leaks through at odd moments. Furthermore, the defenses instituted by protectors make us relate to the world in problematic ways, or they blunt our aliveness or rob us of important capacities.

IFS is able to transform the psyche by relying on the healing power of our true Self or spiritual center, which has these important qualities–connectedness, curiosity, compassion, and calmness.

The seminar will be recorded, so once you are enrolled, you will receive an email afterwards with a link to the recording.

Tuesday, March 26, 2019
4:30-6:30 pacific time (7:30-9:30 pm eastern)
Free
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NEW! IFS Exiles Course: Starts February 12

There has been so much interest in my Exiles Class that the current class, which is full, is already started, and I will be offering a second Exiles Class in February.

In this course, you learn how to

  • safely access young wounded parts (exiles)
  • how to stay in Self, how to develop a healing relationship with your exiles
  • how to unburden the pain and negative beliefs of exiles so they are transformed

This enables you to do a complete IFS session with yourself or a partner. You learn how to facilitate a partner who is working on themselves.

The prerequisite for this course is the IFS Basic Course or equivalent.

If you aren’t sure if you qualify, contact me.

Tuesdays
12:30-2:30 pm pacific time
(3:30-5:30 pm eastern, 8:30-10:30 pm UK)
February 12 – March 19 (6 classes)
Cost: $300, $250 if you enroll by February 6
Click here to enroll

Basic IFS Course Starts June 11

IFS Basic CourseI have had many requests to offer a Basic IFS Course at a time that works for Europeans and others who haven’t been able to attend my Basic Courses because of the time difference. So I will be offering one on my Monday morning, which is the afternoon on the east coast and the evening in Europe.

The Basic Course teaches you how to access Self and work with protectors. It teaches you how to work on yourself using IFS and how to do peer IFS counseling with other people in the class. Therapists and coaches also take the class to learn about IFS, though it is not professional training in IFS.

The course is experiential; it includes practicing IFS sessions for homework in pairs, group exercises, and demonstration IFS sessions with volunteers from the class.

For more information, click

http://personal-growth-programs.com/ifs-courses/basic-course

Mondays
10am – 12 noon pacific time
(1-3 pm eastern, 6-8 pm UK)
June 11 – July 16 (6 classes)
Cost: $300, $250 if you enroll by June 5
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IFS Introductory Seminar and Basic Course

The IFS View of the Human PsycheIFS Introductory Seminar

This free introductory seminar will introduce IFS and give you a taste of working on yourself using this approach. It will include experiential exercises and a demonstration IFS session. You can ask me questions about the model and about the upcoming Basic IFS Class.

Monday, February 26, 2018
4:30-6:30 pm pacific time (7:30-9:30 pm eastern)
Free
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IFS Basic Course

I will be offering a Basic IFS Course that starts a week later. This course teaches you how to access Self and work with protectors. It teaches you how to work on yourself using IFS and how to do peer IFS counseling with other people in the class. Therapists and coaches also take the class to learn about IFS, though it is not professional training in IFS.

The course is experiential; it includes practicing IFS sessions for homework in pairs, group exercises, and demonstration IFS sessions with volunteers from the class.

Mondays
4:30-6:30 pm pacific time (7:30-9:30 pm eastern)
March 5 – April 9 (6 classes)
Cost: $300, $250 if you enroll by Feb. 27
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Working through Conflict in an Interactive/IFS Group

IFS/Interactive GroupOne of the big challenges for many people in an Interactive Group is the expression of “negative” feelings. It is valuable to express all of your feelings, not just good feelings. It is important to say when something bothers you or to express annoyance, disagreement, hurt, or discomfort. It’s also useful to express stronger feelings such as fear, anger, and jealousy.

Some people find it hard to believe that expressing negative feelings of any kind will be helpful to anyone. They say:

“It will just hurt him unnecessarily, and it’s not a big deal anyway.”
“It’s probably just my own material. I should just work it out myself.”
“It’s not something she can change. Why make her feel bad?”

This is because they are afraid of hurting the other person and feeling guilty about it, or because they are afraid of the person being angry or rejecting them.

In the Interactive/IFS Groups, we work on expressing a feeling by speaking for the part rather than as the part. When you speak as a part, it means that the part has blended with you. You have become the part, so if you were angry at someone, you might just blast them, “I hate you. You are so mean to me.” On the other hand, when you speak for a part, it means that you are in Self and you are describing the feelings of the part, “There is a part of me that is angry at you because it believes that you have been mean to me.” By speaking for our parts, we are owning our reactions to other people. We aren’t attacking them; we are letting them know how our parts are reacting to them. This is good practice for communicating in life, and it also makes the group safer. It is OK for you to express negative feelings toward others as long as you speak for your parts.

In fact, there are a number of good reasons for expressing negative feelings. It gives you a chance to practice asserting yourself. Many people are afraid to bring up difficult reactions, and this is an ideal way to learn how to do it. It gives you a chance to learn how to work through hard feelings that come up by doing this. It also gives the other person useful feedback about how they affect others. When you react to someone, it’s usually not all their fault, and it’s usually not all your fault either. It’s not necessarily anyone’s fault, but the reaction often comes from a part of the other person and a part of you. So both of you have something to learn from the interaction.

For example, Carole says,

“Jan, when you had that interaction with Max last week, a part of me didn’t like the way you treated him. It felt you were being defensive and controlling. You didn’t really give him a chance to explain himself before you attacked him.”

I ask Carole if she is feeling protective of Max.

“Maybe a little, but I was more just scared for myself. I wouldn’t want Jan to do that to me.” Jan responds, “I don’t see what was wrong with what I did. I was just standing up for myself.”

I explore with Jan how she is reacting to Carole, and Jan discovers that a part of her is feeling defensive. She even realizes that she is responding to Carole the same way she did to Max. This helps Jan to recognize a part of her that gets defensive, and she decides she’d like to change it.

In the midst of this, I ask how Carole is reacting emotionally to Jan. She discovers that a part of her feels frightened of Jan’s anger. I check this out with Jan and discover that a part of Jan is indeed feeling a little angry at Carole. But a different part of her appreciates Carole for taking the chance to confront Jan because it gave Jan an opportunity to learn something about herself. So Carole a chance to deal with her fear of other people’s anger. Carole discovers that she can tolerate Jan being a little angry at her.

Sometimes two people have an extended interaction to work through a conflict between them where there may be hurt and anger. I provide extensive facilitation to ensure safety, help the two people resolve their conflict, and also to help them learn from it. They learn what parts of them get triggered, what exiles are being protected, and how to communicate clearly, assertively, and with vulnerability. The rest of group members support both people rather than taking sides, and this makes it much easier to resolve any bad feelings between the people. In fact, often their relationship emerges stronger as a result of this kind of interaction.

2018 – IFS Exiles Course

This January, I will be offering the IFS Exiles Course. In this course, you learn:

  • how to safely access young wounded parts (exiles),
  • how to stay in Self, how to develop a healing relationship with your exiles, and
  • how to unburden the pain and negative beliefs of exiles so they are transformed

This enables you to do a complete IFS session with yourself or a partner. You learn how to facilitate a partner who is working on themselves.

The prerequisite for this course is the IFS Basic Course or equivalent. If you aren’t sure if you qualify, contact me at earley.jay@gmail.com

IFS Exiles Course

Mondays
4:30-6:30 pm pacific time (7:30-9:30 eastern)
Jan. 8, 15, 22, 29, Feb. 5, 19 (6 classes)
Cost: $300, $250 if you enroll by Jan. 2
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New Date: Transforming Your Inner Critic using IFS Course

I have pushed back the starting date for the Inner Critic Course in order to allow more people to enroll. It will now start on Oct. 16.

In the Inner Critic Course you will:

  • Develop the grounding and strength to separate from your Critic’s message so you have room to breathe and find your center again.
  • Learn about the seven types of Inner Critic parts and which ones are problematic for you.
  • Discover that your Inner Critic is actually trying to help and protect you (even though it actually causes trouble).
  • Use IFS to transform your Critic and heal your Criticized Child to support your self-esteem and confidence.
  • Develop your Inner Champion to support you to be yourself and feel good about yourself.

Freedom from you Inner CriticFor more information on the Inner Critic, click here, or read the book Freedom from Your Inner Critic.

Format

This Inner Critic Course consists of live sessions by videoconference where you get to interact with Jay and a small number of other participants. Since we can see each other, it allows us to really create connection and trust in the group. We will teach you how to do this powerful inner work and demonstrate it using live IFS sessions with volunteers from the class.

You will also be paired up each week with someone from the class to practice doing an IFS session on yourself with your partner witnessing and helping you.

2017 Course Dates

Mondays 4:30-6:30 pm pacific time (7:30-9:30 eastern)
Oct. 16, 23, 30, Nov. 13, 20, Dec. 4
Cost: $300, $250 if you enroll by October 9
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Advanced IFS Classes: Introductory Webinar

This webinar is an introduction to my Advanced IFS Classes. I will explain how they operate, what the prerequisite is, and answer your questions.

In the Advanced IFS Classes you learn intermediate to advanced techniques and understandings that go beyond what I teach in the Basic IFS Course. Therapists also have a chance for advanced training and consultation on IFS. I have taught these classes for many years and they have been very successful.

Format. The classes meet twice a month for two hours by video-conference. Each class includes teaching, lots of sharing and discussion, demonstration IFS sessions where I work with a volunteer from the class, and experiential group exercises. You pair up with each other between classes to practice doing IFS sessions with each other. This is a very important part of the class, and people tell me how much they get from working with each other.

Each class is limited to 8 participants, so we have a small cohesive group (especially since we can see each other by video-conference), where people feel safe to be vulnerable.

The texts for the classes are my books Self-Therapy, Vol. 2 and Self-Therapy, Vol. 3.

Professionals. Some classes are for therapists and coaches (and other helping professionals) and some are for everyone. These classes are approved by the Center for Self-Leadership for IFS CE credit.

Introductory Webinar

Tuesday, Sept. 19, 2017

By videoconference
11am – 12 noon pacific time (2pm – 3pm eastern)
Free
Click here for more information or to register

Click here for more information on the Advanced IFS Classes.

Advanced IFS Classes

Fall Schedule of Seminars, Classes, & Groups

Fall Schedule of Seminars, Classes, & GroupsBelow is the Fall Schedule of Seminars, Classes, and groups.

Free Introductory Seminars and Groups, by Videoconference

Transforming Your Inner Critic using IFS: Introductory Webinar
Jay Earley, PhD
Monday, Sept. 11
4:30-6:30 pm pacific time (7:30-9:30 eastern)
Free
Click here for more information or to register

Drop-In Interactive/IFS Group
Jay Earley, PhD
Tuesday, Sept. 12
4:30-6:30 pm pacific time (7:30-9:30 eastern)
Free
Click here for more information or to register

Advanced IFS Classes: Introductory Webinar
Jay Earley, PhD
Tuesday, Sept. 19
11am – 12 noon pacific time (2-3 pm eastern)
Free
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Videoconference Courses

Transforming Your Inner Critic using IFS
Jay Earley, PhD
Mondays, 4:30-6:30 pm pacific time (7:30-9:30 eastern)
Sept. 25, Oct. 2, 16, 23, 30, Nov. 13
Cost: $300, $250 if you enroll by Sept. 18
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Ongoing Videoconference Groups and Classes

Advanced Ongoing IFS Classes
Jay Earley, PhD
$50/session, $100/month
Email Jay at earley.jay@gmail.com for a free interview about joining a class.

Class 1: First and third Wednesdays of each month
For therapists and coaches
4:30-6:30 pm pacific time (7:30-9:30 eastern)

Class 2: Second and fourth Wednesdays of each month
For anyone
4:15-6:15 pm pacific time (7:15-9:15 eastern)

Class 3: Second and fourth Tuesdays of each month
For therapists and coaches
9:30-11:30 am pacific time (12:30-2:30 eastern, 5:30-7:30 UK)

Interactive/IFS Groups
Jay Earley, PhD
$120/month, including consultations
Email Jay at earley.jay@gmail.com for a free pre-group interview

Group 1: Regular Interactive Group
First and third Tuesdays of each month
4:30-6:30 pm pacific time (7:30-9:30 pm eastern)

Group 2: Interactive Therapist’s Group
Second and fourth Wednesdays of each month
10am- 12 noon pacific time (1-3 pm eastern, 6-8 pm UK)

 

IFS Exiles Course – Starts February 6

The IFS Exiles Course is the second of my IFS Courses.IFS Exiles Course

You learn how to:

  • safely access young wounded parts (exiles),
  • how to stay in Self,
  • how to develop a healing relationship with your exiles, and
  • how to unburden the pain and negative beliefs of exiles so they are transformed.

This enables you to do a complete IFS session with yourself or a partner. You learn how to facilitate a partner who is working on themselves.

Prerequisite: IFS Basic Course or equivalent. Contact me if you aren’t sure whether you qualify.

Mondays 4:30-6:30 pacific time (7:30-9:30 eastern)
Feb. 6 – March 13 (6 weeks)
$280 ($250 if paid by Jan. 30)
Click here to enroll

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