Interactive/IFS Groups

An Interactive/IFS Group can…

  • Give you the experience of being truly known for who you are. You reveal to the other group members your unique gifts and special qualities, and also the shadow sides of yourself that you keep hidden because of shame. The other group members understand you deeply and care for you. This allows you to become more outgoing and socially comfortable.
  • Help you learn how to be aware of what parts are activated in the moment and to speak for those parts.
  • Give you practice at being present in the moment, with yourself and others, thus entering a state of flow and aliveness.
  • Develop your capacity for intimacy, and help you learn how to make a love relationship work
  • Help you learn to communicate clearly and assertively without dumping your stuff on others.
  • Develop your ability to empathize with other people and care for them.

You can learn these relationship skills:

  • Being in touch with your feelings and parts and speaking for them
  • Reaching out to others confidently and trusting people who deserve your trust.
  • Allowing yourself to be open and vulnerable and to take in support and caring from others.
  • Being comfortable relating to a group of people
  • Having the courage to bring up a difficult issue with someone rather than avoiding it, and working through the conflict so you become closer to that person.
  • Dealing with anger and conflict constructively

What Happens

  • You work directly on how you are relating to the other group members in the moment. Instead of just talking about how you relate in your life, you practice interacting with others right in the group.
  • You get direct and honest feedback on how people are reacting to you. This helps you to understand your interpersonal patterns that aren’t working, and then practice new healthier behavior in the group.
  • You see other people struggling with problems similar to yours, and through this you learn about your deeper issues.
  • There is a strong sense of support for each person and a warm feeling of community in the group.

What Doesn’t Happen

  • These groups are not primarily for bringing in issues in your life to work on using IFS.
  • I rarely do deep individual IFS sessions in the group.
  • If you want to learn more about the IFS individual therapy process, it would be better to take one of my IFS Classes.

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  • The groups meet by videoconference, so we all can see each other.
  • Each group meets twice a month, and you meet with me for an individual consultation on the group every 3 months.
  • Each meeting is recorded, so if you miss one, you can watch the recording.
  • Cost: $140/month, including consultations.
  • Limited to 8 people.
  • They are long-term ongoing groups, because you work on your relationships with the other group members, not just your initial interactions.

Getting Started

You meet with me for a free pre-group interview to see if the group is a good fit for you, then you can try out the group for a month and then decide whether to continue.
For more information or a free pre-group interview, email me at


First and third Wednesdays of each month
10am- 12 noon pacific time (1-3 pm eastern, 6-8 pm UK)

Jay Earley, PhD, is known for his innovation in the group field. He is the author of Interactive Group Therapy: Integrating Interpersonal, Action-Oriented, and Psychodynamic Approaches. During his ten years on the east coast, Jay was Director of the Group Therapy Center of Long Island, where he trained group leaders in this method. He has written a number of articles on interactive groups and made numerous presentations at regional and national psychotherapy conferences.

Jay is also an expert on Internal Family Systems Therapy (IFS). He is the author of Self-Therapy, Freedom from Your Inner Critic, and many other IFS books and audio products. He has taught IFS to both therapists and the general public for many years.

What Group Members are Saying

As a veteran of 30 years of therapies and groups, I have experienced both the mediocre and the masterful in the psychotherapy profession. Never before in such a short time have I received so much growth, power, nurturing, conflict and resolution as I have in Jay’s interactive group. My expectations, already high, have been far exceeded. Jay is consistently present, vulnerable, ego-less, accepting, challenging, available, and impersonally caring. What I had hoped to learn for my clients has been given to me in greater measure personally. Jay’s model is learnable and adaptable. It has affected my psychotherapy work and life.
– Dr. F. Towne Allen, psychotherapist

I think it’s a testament to the efficacy of Jay Earley and his relationship group that, unlike some therapy and group experiences I’ve had over the years, I am clearly aware of a number of specific and valuable interpersonal skills I have developed there. I am able to address people in conflict situations in ways that help them hear me without defensive distortions and escalated bad feelings. In turn, I am more able to listen without defensive reactivity. I learned the importance of these skills a long time ago, but the group has helped me actually be able to practice them in the real world. I’ve become aware of lifelong patterns of thinking and behaving that have been problematic for me, and I’ve come to understand their connections to parts of my personality that have been in pain since they were formed in my childhood. Most importantly, I’m learning how to care for and heal those parts. By being able to take in and validate the good feelings people have for me, I have come to appreciate myself more and accept my good qualities. I’ve become a much better friend to myself. I’ve learned the great pleasure of being an authentic person, right or wrong, and of the satisfaction that comes from taking the risks in relationships to cultivate that authenticity.
– Jim Spohn

Jay Earley is a thinker, doer, and trainer in the practice of Gestalt group work. His training groups and workshops have been taken by therapists and trainers from all the major Gestalt training centers in the New York area. California’s gain is New York’s loss! Whether you want to learn how to do group therapy or be a participant, Jay’s gentle style and unique approach will make the difference.
– Marla Silverman, Ph.D., Dirctor of Training, New York Gestalt Center for Psychotherapy and Training.


Once you have completed the pre-group interview and have decided to join a group, you enroll by paying for the first two meetings of the group, which is $140.
You can use the Venmo app, sending the money to Jay-Earley.
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If you live outside the U.S., you may use PayPal, sending the money to