Introductory Webinar: Transforming Your Inner Critic using IFS

Transforming Your  Inner CriticTransforming Your Inner Critic using IFS an introductory webinar on September 11, 2017.

Are you struggling with low self-esteem, depression, perfectionism, self-doubt, or inner conflict? These issues often stem from the Inner Critic, which is the part of you that judges you and makes you feel bad about yourself. You hear a voice inside that constantly berates you, doubts you, and undermines your confidence in yourself.

I have developed a comprehensive understanding of the different forms that Inner Critic parts take and how to transform them using IFS (Internal Family Systems Therapy). IFS is very effective in working with Inner Critic parts when you use my Inner Critic version of the IFS model.

During this webinar you can:

  • Learn about the different forms Inner Critic parts can take
  • Understand what it takes to transform your Critic using IFS
  • Have an experience of working with your Inner Critic
  • Experience what it is like to participate in a videoconference class
  • Get a preview of the upcoming Inner Critic class
  • Meet Jay and ask any questions you have

Monday, Sept. 11
4:30-6:30 pm pacific time (7:30-9:30 eastern)
Free
Click here for more information or to register.

Feel free to register even if you can’t make that time. You will receive a recording afterwards.

Click here  for information on my upcoming Inner Critic Course

IFS Classes and Groups

I offer a variety of classes and groups based on IFS (Internal Family Systems Therapy), which are summarized below.

The groups and classes meet by videoconference, so we all can see each other, which enhances the group connection. They meet twice a month, and members of the groups meet with me for an individual consultation on the group every 3 months. Each meeting is recorded, so if you miss one, you can watch the recording.

Advanced IFS Classes

In my Advanced IFS Classes, you learn intermediate and advanced techniques and understandings that go beyond what I teach in the Basic and Exiles Courses. I lead demonstration IFS sessions with volunteers from the class, and you practice with each other in pairs for homework. In addition, the whole group works together on important psychological issues such as procrastination, the inner critic, depression, eating issues, and more. There are separate classes for therapists/coaches, which include advanced training and consultation on IFS.

If you are new to IFS, you can take my recorded Basic IFS Class (make sure to do the homework, preferably with a partner) and then join one of these classes.

There are three different classes, each of which is $50/session, $100/month.

Class 1:
First and third Wednesdays of each month
For therapists and coaches
4:30-6:30 pm pacific time (7:30-9:30 eastern)

Class 2:
Second and fourth Wednesdays of each month
For anyone
4:15-6:15 pm pacific time (7:15-9:15 eastern)

Class 3:
Second and fourth Tuesdays of each month
For therapists and coaches
9:30-11:30 am pacific time (12:30-2:30 eastern, 5:30-7:30 UK)

Click here for detailed information, topics covered, and how to join.

Interactive/IFS Groups 

An Interactive/IFS Group can help you . . .

  • Develop your capacity for intimacy and learn how to make a love relationship work
  • Become more assertive
  • Become more outgoing and socially comfortable
  • Learn what you may be doing to keep your relationships from being satisfying
  • Understand and trust people of the opposite sex . . . or of the same sex
  • Learn how to deal with anger and conflict constructively
  • Become part of a loving community of people
  • Raise your self-esteem
  • Get in touch with your personal power

You can learn these relationship skills:

  • Being in touch with your feelings and expressing them
  • Speaking for your parts, not acting them out
  • Reaching out to others confidently
  • Saying ”No” firmly
  • Allowing yourself to be open and vulnerable
  • Expressing yourself forcefully and spontaneously
  • Being comfortable relating to a group of people
  • Asking for what you really want
  • Having the courage to bring up difficult issues
  • Empathizing with others 

What Happens

  • You work directly on how you are relating to the other group members . . . in the moment. Instead of just talking about how you relate in your life, you practice interacting with others right in the group and get help as you do.
  • You get direct and honest feedback on how people are reacting to you.
  • The group provides a safe place for you to try out new, healthy ways of relating to people.
  • You learn how to feel your emotional responses and identify the parts that are activated while interacting with people
  • You learn how communicate openly, clearly, and assertively.
  • You learn how to access and work with the parts of you that get triggered in interactions with people, using IFS.
  • You see other people struggling with problems similar to yours, and through this you learn about yourself and others.
  • There is a strong sense of support for each person and a warm feeling of community in the group.

There are two different groups, each of which is $60/meeting, $120/month, including consultations.

Group 1:
For anyone
First and third Tuesdays of each month
4:30-6:30 pm pacific time (7:30-9:30 pm eastern)

Group 2:
For therapists and coaches
Second and fourth Wednesdays of each month
10am- 12 noon pacific time (1-3 pm eastern, 6-8 pm UK)

Click here for more information.

Email me at earley.jay@gmail.com for a free pre-group interview

 

Self-Therapy, Vol. 3

Self-Therapy, Vol. 3A Step-by-Step Guide to Using IFS for Eating Issues, Procrastination, the Inner Critic, Depression, Perfectionism, Anger, Communication, and More

I am excited to announce the publication of my new book in the Self-Therapy Series. It is available now in Kindle and PDF and will be published in paperback in a week or so.

The first book in this series, Self-Therapy, brought Internal Family Systems Therapy (IFS) to both therapists and the general public. IFS is a powerful and user-friendly method of therapy, which can be done on your own. Self-Therapy, Vol. 3 shows how IFS can be used to transform a variety of important psychological issues. You don’t need to have read Vol 2.

If you have been using IFS with your clients or in your own inner work, this book will help you to heal and transform eating issues, procrastination, the inner critic, depression, perfectionism, anger, communication, and more.

Click here for more information or to purchase.

 

April 25 – Introduction to Advanced IFS Classes

Please join us on April 25 for the Introduction to Advanced IFS Classes Webinar.

In the Advanced Ongoing IFS Classes you learn intermediate and advanced techniques and understandings that go beyond what I teach in the Basic and Exiles Courses. In addition, the whole group works together on important psychological issues such as procrastination, the inner critic, depression, eating issues, and many more. Therapists also have a chance for advanced training and consultation on IFS.

There are 4 classes.

Click here for detailed information about the Advanced IFS Classes, schedules, and how to join.

I am so grateful for this offering from Jay and the opportunity to deepen and expand my understanding of IFS (which I adore).  Jay has structured the class so thoughtfully, resulting in a wonderfully safe and respectful container for learning and processing.  In addition, he presents a deliciously comprehensive curriculum, and best of all, invaluable demonstrations each session.  This is pure gold.  On top of all of this, Jay has assembled a fantastic group of practitioners as participants, whom–thanks to Jay’s video-conferencing wizardry–I can see and interact with in a way that feels intimate and dynamic.
— Carolyn Hinman, JD, CCHT

Webinar: Introduction to Advanced IFS Classes
Jay Earley, PhD
Monday, April 25
5-6 pm pacific time (8-9 pm eastern)
Click here to register for free

Register even if you can’t attend. You will receive a replay afterward.

 

 

 

Introduction to Advanced IFS Classes Webinar – February 1

In the Advanced Ongoing IFS Classes you learn advanced techniques and understandings that go beyond what I teach in the Basic and Exiles Courses.

In addition, the whole group works together on important psychological issues such as procrastination, the inner critic, depression, eating issues, and many more. Therapists also have a chance for advanced training and consultation on IFS.

There are 4 classes.

Click here for detailed information about the Advanced IFS Classes, schedules, and how to join.

I am so grateful for this offering from Jay and the opportunity to deepen and expand my understanding of IFS (which I adore).  Jay has structured the class so thoughtfully, resulting in a wonderfully safe and respectful container for learning and processing.  In addition, he presents a deliciously comprehensive curriculum, and best of all, invaluable demonstrations each session.  This is pure gold.  On top of all of this, Jay has assembled a fantastic group of practitioners as participants, whom–thanks to Jay’s video-conferencing wizardry–I can see and interact with in a way that feels intimate and dynamic.
— Carolyn Hinman, JD, CCHT

 

Webinar: Introduction to Advanced IFS Classes
Jay Earley, PhD
Monday, Feb. 1
3:30-4:30 pm pacific time (6:30-7:30 pm eastern)
Click here to register for free

Register even if you can’t attend. You will receive a replay afterward.

IFS is an “Evidence-Based” Practice

I am very excited to announce that IFS is now posted on NREPP as an evidence-based practice.

NREPP is the National Registry for Evidence-based Programs and Practices, a national repository that is maintained by the U.S. government’s Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA).

Interventions listed in NREPP, now including IFS, have been subject to independent, rigorous scrutiny and are deemed to show significant impact on individual outcomes relating to mental health.

A comprehensive application requesting the inclusion of IFS on NREPP was based on a proof-of-concept study by Nancy Shadick, MD, MPH and Nancy Sowell, MSW, LICSW. The longitudinal randomized clinical study, which involved 70-some patients in an IFS treatment during 36 weeks with periodic follow-ups including 12 months post-intervention, published in August 2013 in the peer-reviewed Journal of Rheumatology.

SAMHSA’s independent scientific review of the study and NREPP application affirmed the following findings:

As a clinical treatment, IFS has been rated EFFECTIVE for improving general functioning and well-being. In addition, it has been rated PROMISING for each of: improving phobia, panic, and generalized anxiety disorders and symptoms; physical health conditions and symptoms; personal resilience/self-concept; and depression and depressive symptoms.

These scientific findings and the ensuing listing of IFS on NREPP affirm the vast potential of IFS Therapy for advancing emotional healing and mental well-being. In particular, they indicate promising effects on mind (depression, anxiety), body (physical health conditions), and spirit (personal resilience and self-concept).

Introduction to IFS Parts Work Video Series

IFS Parts Video SeriesIf you are new to parts work or IFS, this is the perfect introduction. For those of you who already know IFS, this video series won’t contain anything new, but if you have friends whom you would like to introduce to IFS please share with them.

Do you struggle with…

  • Low self-esteem
  • Procrastination
  • Anger
  • Depression
  • Shyness
  • Eating issues

Or other psychological issues?

Do you want to have..

  • Self-confidence
  • Assertiveness
  • Intimacy
  • Aliveness
  • Success

Or other healthy capacities?

In my 40 years of practicing psychotherapy, I have discovered that, for most people, the best way to make these changes and achieve these goals is by working psychologically with your “parts.”

Click here to get the Parts Work Video Series.

Advanced Ongoing IFS Class

Last week I finished teaching an Inner Critic Course and an IFS Exiles Course. Quite a few of the people want to continue, so I have decided to offer an Advanced Ongoing IFS Class.

The Advanced Ongoing IFS Class will meet twice a month for two hours over the telephone. Each class will include some teaching from me, lots of sharing and discussion, demonstration IFS sessions, where I work with a volunteer from the class, and some experiential group exercises. You will pair up with each other between classes to practice doing IFS sessions with each other. This is a very important part of the class, and people tell me how much they get from working with each other.

The class will be similar to my 6-week classes, except that it will be ongoing and meet every other week. This means that once you join the class, you are responsible for attending each meeting (unless you are ill or on vacation) until you leave. This also means that we will have a chance to develop a really close knit, connected group, which will make it safe for people to be vulnerable with each other. I taught a class like this that ran for about five years and was very successful.

Each class will be recorded, so if you have to miss, you can listen to the recording.

There are many important IFS techniques and understandings that I can cover in the class. These include:

  • Resolving polarization
  • Managers and firefighters
  • Working with anger and disowned anger
  • Negotiating for Self-leadership
  • Working with legacy burdens
  • Working with and transforming Inner Critic parts
  • Disowned parts
  • Protector subparts of exiles
  • Somatic IFS
  • Critters (entities)
  • Guides
  • Internal patterns that come up in doing IFS work

In addition, the class will cover how to work with specific psychological topics, such as the following:

  • Transform psychological issues, such as procrastination, depression, shyness, anxiety, eating issues, addictions, perfectionism, etc.
  • Working through interpersonal patterns such as people-pleasing, passive-aggressive, victim, controlling, rebel, judgmental, etc.
  • Healing emotional wounds from childhood such as shame, abandonment, being judged, guilt, feeling unlovable, feeling worthless, etc.
  • Developing healthy capacities such as love, personal power, self-confidence, life purpose, flow, creativity, peace, vitality, clarity/organization, contributing to social transformation, etc.

The specific topics will depend on your interests and desires.

When dealing with certain topics, such as procrastination or eating issues, it is very helpful to pair up with someone from the class to not only do IFS sessions but also to support each other in making changes in your behavior. This will be an important part of the class.

There will be two different classes, both on Wednesdays.

Class 1: First and third Wednesdays of each month

Class 2: Second and fourth Wednesdays of each month

Both Classes:
Time: 4:30-6:30 pm pacific time (7:30-9:30 eastern)
Cost: $50/session, which is $100/month

The prerequisite for the class is my Basic IFS Course or equivalent. If you want to join but haven’t yet taken the Basic Course, there is a recorded version available in our online store at https://personal-growth-programs.com/products/product-category/courses/ifs-basic-course/. Once you take this course, you can join the Advanced Class. Make sure that you do the experiential homework for the course (preferably with a partner).

Click here to enroll. Go right to step 3 where you can pay by check, PayPal, or credit card.

A Story about Resolving Depression

This is a continuation of Ginger’s story and how she worked on resolving her depression. You can read the first part of Ginger’s story about the Depressed Pattern here.

The Depressed Pattern is one of the patterns in the Pattern System and Self-Therapy Journey.

Ginger went into IFS therapy. As she got to know her Depressed Part, she discovered that it was making her feel low-energy and hopeless on purpose. It was afraid that if it allowed her to be energetic and hopeful, she would be disappointed again the way she had been so many times before. When she was hopeful and then got disappointed, the resulting crash was much more painful. So this part was trying to keep her from feeling this pain. Of course, it was actually causing her tremendous pain in the process and ruining her life, but it didn’t really understand that.

Ginger’s Depressed Part was trying to protect an exile (wounded inner child part) who felt devastated when its hopes were disappointed. She accessed this part and discovered that it had a Need Wound that went back to Ginger’s earliest relationship with her mother. Ginger called it the Needy Baby.

Ginger: “I never really felt connected to my mother, and she certainly didn’t bond with me. I got very little nurturing and caring, very little love. My mother was mostly distracted with the other kids or lost in her own pain. My Needy Baby Part felt totally abandoned.”

So when Ginger lost her job, that began to trigger this part. But when she also lost her mother, then it was clear to this child part that she would never get the love and caring she so desperately needed from her mother. This triggered the pain of this child in a big way, and so the Depressed Part stepped in to deaden this pain. It also wanted to keep her from ever feeling hopeful again so that another disappointment couldn’t happen.

Ginger made contact with the Needy Baby from Self and gave her the caring and nurturing this Baby needed. She held the Baby and suckled it to her breast. She told the Baby how much she loved her and how precious she was to Ginger. In between therapy sessions, Ginger kept up her connection with the Needy Baby and made sure that the Baby knew that Ginger would be the mother this Baby needed and the Baby would never be alone and neglected again. Gradually the Needy Baby transformed into a happy, joyful baby, and then grew into an excited, playful, adventurous child.

Once the Depressed Part saw this transformation in the Needy Baby, it realized that it didn’t need to crush Ginger and make her hopeless any more. The Baby didn’t need its protection so it could relax and stopped depressing Ginger. Her energy and enthusiasm for life returned. She began to build her self-confidence, and she felt alive and vital.

Ginger had the spark and vitality to take the steps to look for a job, and she began to ace her job interviews. She reconnected with some of her friends and made one new friend as well. She began dating again because men were now drawn to her new aliveness and she was open to connecting with them.

Self-Therapy Journey has a module for resolving Depression.

A Story of the Depressed Pattern

This is the story of one person with the Depressed Pattern.

Ginger felt listless and low energy. She was feeling lethargic and it was hard for her to do anything because her life seemed hopeless. It was difficult for her to get up the energy to do more than minimal tasks around the house.

She had a good, well-Image of a depressed womanpaying job, but she lost it when the economy crashed. Then six months later her mother died. This was too much; it threw her into a deep depression that lasted for over a year.

Ginger reached out to friends less and less, and even when she was with them, she was withdrawn and down. So she became more and more isolated and alone. This increased her sense of hopelessness and bleakness. She felt dead inside.

She came to believe that this was her lot because there was something deeply wrong with her. She couldn’t say what it was, but she just felt like she was a loser and so, of course, she had no friends and couldn’t find a job.

Though she had enough money at the moment, she knew it wouldn’t last too long, so she had to do something to find employment. She continually told herself that she had to work on her resume, do networking, apply for openings, but she couldn’t even start on these tasks. A part of her felt that there was no point in trying because nothing was going to work. She sunk deeper into misery and sloth.

Overcoming depression, a continuation of Ginger’s story.

Self-Therapy Journey contains a module for overcoming depression.