IFS Classes and Groups

I offer a variety of classes and groups based on IFS (Internal Family Systems Therapy), which are summarized below.

The groups and classes meet by videoconference, so we all can see each other, which enhances the group connection. They meet twice a month, and members of the groups meet with me for an individual consultation on the group every 3 months. Each meeting is recorded, so if you miss one, you can watch the recording.

Advanced IFS Classes

In my Advanced IFS Classes, you learn intermediate and advanced techniques and understandings that go beyond what I teach in the Basic and Exiles Courses. I lead demonstration IFS sessions with volunteers from the class, and you practice with each other in pairs for homework. In addition, the whole group works together on important psychological issues such as procrastination, the inner critic, depression, eating issues, and more. There are separate classes for therapists/coaches, which include advanced training and consultation on IFS.

If you are new to IFS, you can take my recorded Basic IFS Class (make sure to do the homework, preferably with a partner) and then join one of these classes.

There are three different classes, each of which is $50/session, $100/month.

Class 1:
First and third Wednesdays of each month
For therapists and coaches
4:30-6:30 pm pacific time (7:30-9:30 eastern)

Class 2:
Second and fourth Wednesdays of each month
For anyone
4:15-6:15 pm pacific time (7:15-9:15 eastern)

Class 3:
Second and fourth Tuesdays of each month
For therapists and coaches
9:30-11:30 am pacific time (12:30-2:30 eastern, 5:30-7:30 UK)

Click here for detailed information, topics covered, and how to join.

Interactive/IFS Groups 

An Interactive/IFS Group can help you . . .

  • Develop your capacity for intimacy and learn how to make a love relationship work
  • Become more assertive
  • Become more outgoing and socially comfortable
  • Learn what you may be doing to keep your relationships from being satisfying
  • Understand and trust people of the opposite sex . . . or of the same sex
  • Learn how to deal with anger and conflict constructively
  • Become part of a loving community of people
  • Raise your self-esteem
  • Get in touch with your personal power

You can learn these relationship skills:

  • Being in touch with your feelings and expressing them
  • Speaking for your parts, not acting them out
  • Reaching out to others confidently
  • Saying ”No” firmly
  • Allowing yourself to be open and vulnerable
  • Expressing yourself forcefully and spontaneously
  • Being comfortable relating to a group of people
  • Asking for what you really want
  • Having the courage to bring up difficult issues
  • Empathizing with others 

What Happens

  • You work directly on how you are relating to the other group members . . . in the moment. Instead of just talking about how you relate in your life, you practice interacting with others right in the group and get help as you do.
  • You get direct and honest feedback on how people are reacting to you.
  • The group provides a safe place for you to try out new, healthy ways of relating to people.
  • You learn how to feel your emotional responses and identify the parts that are activated while interacting with people
  • You learn how communicate openly, clearly, and assertively.
  • You learn how to access and work with the parts of you that get triggered in interactions with people, using IFS.
  • You see other people struggling with problems similar to yours, and through this you learn about yourself and others.
  • There is a strong sense of support for each person and a warm feeling of community in the group.

There are two different groups, each of which is $60/meeting, $120/month, including consultations.

Group 1:
For anyone
First and third Tuesdays of each month
4:30-6:30 pm pacific time (7:30-9:30 pm eastern)

Group 2:
For therapists and coaches
Second and fourth Wednesdays of each month
10am- 12 noon pacific time (1-3 pm eastern, 6-8 pm UK)

Click here for more information.

Email me at earley.jay@gmail.com for a free pre-group interview

 

New Advanced IFS Class for Therapists & Coaches – Starts Jan 24

Advanced IFS ClassesIn my ongoing Advanced IFS Classes, you learn intermediate and advanced techniques and understandings that go beyond what I teach in the Basic and Exiles Courses.

I lead demonstration IFS sessions with volunteers from the class, and you practice with ea Advanced Ongoing IFS Classes, you learn intermediate and advanced techniques and understandings that go beyond what I teach in the Basic and Exiles Courses.ch other in pairs for homework. In addition, the whole group works together on important psychological issues such as procrastination, the inner critic, depression, eating issues, and more.

There are separate classes for therapists and coaches, which include advanced training and consultation on IFS.

Typical Topics Covered

  • Resolving polarization—conflicts between parts
  • Managers and firefighters
  • What to do if a part won’t talk with you
  • Updating protectors about your capacities
  • Negotiating for Self-leadership with protectors
  • Legacy burdens
  • Self-like parts
  • Disowned parts (exiles without burdens)
  • Protector subparts of exiles
  • Somatic awareness in IFS
  • Unattached burdens (malevolent entities)
  • Spiritual guides
  • Types of parts that block the therapy process
  • Embodying and integrating transformed exiles
  • Advanced reparenting techniques
  • Working with Inner Critics
  • Resolving Eating Issues
  • Working with Anger in IFS
  • Working with pain or medical conditions using IFS

 Topics Mainly of Interest to Professionals

  • The therapist-client relationship in IFS therapy
  • Recognizing and dealing with transference patterns in clients
  • Recognizing your countertransference patterns
  • Recognizing when you’re not in Self with a client; staying in Self with difficult parts
  • Working with trauma
  • Direct access
  • Introducing IFS to new clients
  • Working with clients who resist IFS
  • Working with Dissociative Identity Disorder
  • What to do when therapeutic change doesn’t happen

There are 3 classes, including a new one for therapists and coaches.

New Advanced IFS Class For Therapists and Coaches

Second and fourth Tuesdays of each month
For therapists and coaches
9:30-11:30 am pacific time (12:30-2:30 eastern, 5:30-7:30 UK)
Starts Jan. 24, 2017

Click here for detailed information, topics covered, schedule of all classes, and how to join.

 

Online Book Party for Self-Therapy, Vol. 3.

 

WelcoOnline book party for Self-therapy Vol. 3me to my first online book party. This free party is for my newly published book, Self-Therapy, Vol. 3.

I am excited to try holding a book part by videoconference.

Tuesday, July 12
5-6:30 pm pacific time (8-9:30 pm eastern)
Free

The first book in this series, Self-Therapy, brought Internal Family Systems Therapy (IFS) to both Self-Therapy, Vol. 3therapists and the general public. Vol. 3 shows how IFS can be used to transform a variety of important psychological issues. You don’t need to have read Vol 2. If you have been using IFS with your clients or in your own inner work, this book will help you to heal and transform eating issues, procrastination, the inner critic, depression, perfectionism, anger, communication, and more.

This online book party will be held by videoconference so we can all see each other. Come and have a fun evening!

It will include:

  • A discussion of the book and an opportunity to purchase it.
  • A guided meditation based on one of the chapters.
  • A chance to mingle and get to know the people attending.
  • A description of Vol. 2 and the upcoming Vol. 4 in the Self-Therapy Series.
  • Question answered about IFS, the content of Vol. 3, my books and other products, my classes and groups, Self-Therapy Journey, or anything else.

Click here to register for free.

 

Introduction to Advanced IFS Classes Webinar – February 1

In the Advanced Ongoing IFS Classes you learn advanced techniques and understandings that go beyond what I teach in the Basic and Exiles Courses.

In addition, the whole group works together on important psychological issues such as procrastination, the inner critic, depression, eating issues, and many more. Therapists also have a chance for advanced training and consultation on IFS.

There are 4 classes.

Click here for detailed information about the Advanced IFS Classes, schedules, and how to join.

I am so grateful for this offering from Jay and the opportunity to deepen and expand my understanding of IFS (which I adore).  Jay has structured the class so thoughtfully, resulting in a wonderfully safe and respectful container for learning and processing.  In addition, he presents a deliciously comprehensive curriculum, and best of all, invaluable demonstrations each session.  This is pure gold.  On top of all of this, Jay has assembled a fantastic group of practitioners as participants, whom–thanks to Jay’s video-conferencing wizardry–I can see and interact with in a way that feels intimate and dynamic.
— Carolyn Hinman, JD, CCHT

 

Webinar: Introduction to Advanced IFS Classes
Jay Earley, PhD
Monday, Feb. 1
3:30-4:30 pm pacific time (6:30-7:30 pm eastern)
Click here to register for free

Register even if you can’t attend. You will receive a replay afterward.

Webinar January 11: – Introduction to Advanced IFS Classes

In the Advanced Ongoing IFS Classes you learn advanced techniques and understandings that go beyond what I teach in the Basic and Exiles Courses.

In addition, the whole group works together on important psychological issues such as procrastination, the inner critic, depression, eating issues, and many more. Therapists also have a chance for advanced training and consultation on IFS.

There are 4 classes.

Click here for detailed information about the Advanced IFS Classes, schedules, and how to join.

I am so grateful for this offering from Jay and the opportunity to deepen and expand my understanding of IFS (which I adore).  Jay has structured the class so thoughtfully, resulting in a wonderfully safe and respectful container for learning and processing.  In addition, he presents a deliciously comprehensive curriculum, and best of all, invaluable demonstrations each session.  This is pure gold.  On top of all of this, Jay has assembled a fantastic group of practitioners as participants, whom–thanks to Jay’s video-conferencing wizardry–I can see and interact with in a way that feels intimate and dynamic.
— Carolyn Hinman, JD, CCHT

Webinar: Introduction to Advanced IFS Classes
Jay Earley, PhD
Monday, Jan. 11
4:30-5:30 pm pacific time (7:30-8:30 pm eastern)
Click here to register for free

Register even if you can’t attend. You will receive a replay afterward.

Our New Online Store

Jay Earley, PhD and Bonnie Weiss, LCSW

We have been working on our online store to make it easier for you to find the products you are looking for. We have: Products

  • Guided meditations, which lead you through part of an IFS session, help you to access an Inner Champion, or other formats.
  • Books – paperbacks, ebooks, and one audiobook
  • Demonstration IFS sessions, where you get to hear a recording of a real IFS session with commentary afterward
  • Recorded Courses
  • Webinars
  • More

If you are looking for products to help you with a certain psychological issue, you can browse the storePsychological Issues Products in that way. We have products to help with:

  • Procrastination, Perfectionism, or Striving
  • People-Pleasing, Passive-Aggressive, Controlling, Victim, Caretaking, or Rebel Patterns
  • Social Issues
  • Eating Issues
  • Depression
  • Inner Critic Issues
  • Anger
  • Interpersonal Conflict

If you are looking for a product to help you develop a certain healthy capacity, you can browse the Healthy Capacities Productsstore in that way. We have products to help with:

  • Assertiveness, Personal Power
  • Self-Esteem, Confidence
  • Intimacy
  • Self-Care, Self-Support
  • Aliveness, Pleasure
  • Work Capacities

ApproachesCertain of our products are for therapist, coaches, and other helping professions. You can browse this list as well.

We invite you to explore our store at https://personal-growth-programs.com/products/

 

Introduction to Advanced IFS Classes

Webinars: Introduction to Advanced IFS Classes

Each webinar is an introduction to the Advanced IFS Classes, where you can find out more about how the classes operate and what topics we will be covering.

Tuesday, 9/8/15, 10 am
Click here to enroll for free
Monday, 9/14/15, 4:30 pm
Tuesday, 9/15/15, 10 am

Advanced Ongoing IFS Classes

In the Advanced Ongoing IFS Classes you learn advanced techniques and understandings that go beyond what I teach in the Basic and Exiles Courses.

In addition, the whole group works together on important psychological issues such as procrastination, the inner critic, depression, eating issues, and many more. Therapists also have a chance for advanced training and consultation on IFS. I taught a class like this that ran for about five years and was very successful.

Format. The classes meet twice a month for two hours by video-conference. Each class includes teaching, lots of sharing and discussion, demonstration IFS sessions where I work with a volunteer from the class, and experiential group exercises. You pair up with each other between classes to practice doing IFS sessions with each other. This is a very important part of the class, and people tell me how much they get from working with each other. We develop a really close-knit, connected group (especially since we can see each other by video-conference), which makes it safe to be vulnerable with each other.

The text for the class is my book Self-Therapy, and the rough draft of my new book Self-Therapy, Vol. 2, which I will email to you.

Professionals. Therapists and coaches (and other helping professionals) are welcome in the classes and some classes are all or mostly professionals. For those classes, we will engage in activities aimed primarily at professionals (see below). These classes are approved by the Center for Self-Leadership for IFS CE credit, but they are not a substitute for taking the IFS Level 1 professional training from the Center for Self-Leadership.

Class Activities

  • Guided meditations
  • Sharing your issues and getting support from the group
  • Lecture and discussion
  • Demo sessions
  • Group and pair exercises in class
  • Pairing up for practice IFS sessions for homework
  • Supporting each other in making changes in your behavior (especially useful with topics such as procrastination or eating issues).
  • Practicing speaking for your parts as they arise in the group process.
  • Working through interpersonal issues that arise between group members

Each class will be recorded, so if you have to miss, you can listen to the recording.

Class Topics

1. IFS techniques and understandings: 

  • Resolving polarization—conflicts between parts
  • Managers and firefighters
  • What to do if a part won’t talk with you
  • Updating protectors about your capacities
  • Negotiating for Self-leadership with protectors
  • Legacy burdens
  • Self-like parts
  • Disowned parts (exiles without burdens)
  • Protector subparts of exiles
  • Somatic awareness in IFS
  • Unattached burdens (malevolent entities)
  • Spiritual guides
  • Types of parts that block the therapy process
  • Embodying and integrating transformed exiles
  • Advanced reparenting techniques

2. Working on Psychological Issues Together (based on the Pattern System)

When the whole group works on the same together, you learn from other people’s work, and your parts get activated by other people’s work, making it easier to access them. You feel deeply supported since everyone is exploring similar psychological dynamics. In the pairing for homework, you can facilitate each other’s work especially well because you are working on similar problems. In addition, you can support each other in making changes in your behavior by checking in after important life situations arise.

  • Working with and transforming Inner Critic parts.
  • Transforming psychological issues, such as procrastination, depression, shyness, anxiety, perfectionism, dissociation, striving, and so on.
  • Working with addictions and eating issues.
  • Working with anger and disowned anger and developing strength.
  • Working through interpersonal patterns such as people-pleasing, passive-aggressive, victim, defensive, controlling, rebel, judgmental, and so on.
  • Healing emotional wounds from childhood (types of exiles) such as shame, abandonment, being judged, guilt, feeling unlovable, feeling worthless, and so on.
  • IFS and physiological or medical conditions.
  • Charting your psyche by assessing your problematic patterns and healthy capacities through the Pattern System.

3. Applying IFS and the Pattern System to Life Situations

  • Sequences of part’s interactions in relationship conflicts.
  • Why you are romantically attracted to the wrong people.
  • Communication in conflict situations.
  • Work issues
  • Social issues
  • Intimate relationships
  • Family relationships and parenting
  • Social activism

4. Developing Healthy Capacities and Spiritual Qualities

  • Developing healthy capacities such as intimacy, assertiveness, self-confidence, vitality, work confidence, clarity/organization, strength, and so on.
  • Developing higher capacities such as love, flow, presence, peace, creativity, surrender, service, and so on.
  • Finding your life purpose, finding your contribution to making a better world.
  • Working through parts that block aspects of spiritual development
  • Learning to sense and unfold qualities of presence such as spaciousness, depth, stillness, joy, preciousness, sacredness, inner support, expansiveness, and so on.

5. Activities Mainly of Interest to Professionals

  • Demonstration IFS sessions where one participant is therapist for another under my guidance in the moment. (This provides excellent learning for the whole group.)
  • Consultations on clients
  • Questions on applying IFS with certain types of clients or issues
  • IFS sessions on parts of yours that get triggered by clients

6. Topics Mainly of Interest to Professionals

  • The therapist-client relationship in IFS therapy
  • Recognizing when you’re not in Self with a client; staying in Self with difficult parts
  • Working with trauma
  • Using Self-Therapy Journey with clients as an adjunct to IFS therapy
  • Direct access
  • Introducing IFS to new clients
  • Working with clients who resist IFS
  • Working with Dissociate Identity Disorder
  • Understanding the kinds of relationships between parts in the internal system
  • What to do when therapeutic change doesn’t happen
  • Capacities for IFS therapists

Your interests and desires will determine the topics we cover and when we explore them.

Each webinar is an introduction to the Advanced IFS Classes, where you can find out more about how the classes operate and what topics we will be covering.

Webinars: Introduction to Advanced IFS Classes

Each webinar is an introduction to the Advanced IFS Classes, where you can find out more about how the classes operate and what topics we will be covering.

Tuesday, 9/8/15, 10 am
Click here to enroll for free

Monday, 9/14/15, 4:30 pm
Tuesday, 9/15/15, 10 am

Click here for the schedule of Advanced IFS Classes.

Beyond Eating Audio Course

Beyond Eating Audio CourseI am very excited to announce the Beyond Eating Audio Course.

It lays out a three-pronged model for helping people with food-related issues. The course will help you with food addiction, weight-related anxiety, and the hopelessness that comes from managing one’s relationship with food.

The program focuses on:

  • Understanding hunger
  • Identifying the parts of you that arise around food and developing a healing relationship with them
  • Developing self-nurturing practices

The package consists of:

  • 2 introductory tracks
  • 8 lecture tracks
  • 11 meditation tracks
  • 4 therapy session demonstration tracks
  • 1 Word document with homework, articles, graphics and forms.

It is linked with our on-line community of other journeyers where you can find support and homework partners.

It is geared toward deepening your understanding of your relationship with food and eating, and in addition, it has the potential to affect your sense of yourself in profound ways.

My wish is that you come away with more compassion for yourself, the ability to stand more separately from your parts, a greater capacity for making healthy choices, and a deeper sense of your own preciousness.

Bonnie Weiss, LCSW ♥


C05-Beyond-Eating-Audio-Course-1Click here for more information or to purchase it.

New IFS Demonstration Sessions on Eating Issues

I am excited to add 4 new eating demonstrations on eating issues to the store this week. Click on any title to learn more about it or purchase it.

 

Working with Exiles DemonstrationWorking with Eating Exiles

This is a particularly touching piece of work. The client has maintained normal weight throughout her life, though she constantly struggles with food and eating. She finds that she has an Inner Controller stemming from for a teenager who experienced ridicule about her body, and a protector with a trunk of memories from early childhood. The two most prominent memories were of a baby who got too much milk and not enough love from a rushed mother; and a little girl who stuffed her face to escape from family dinner table arguments. As we work with these two exiles she is amazed at the clarity she is able to achieve and the depth of understanding and compassion that emerges.

 

The Hijacker Indulger DemonstrationThe Hijacker Indulger

This client has been a yo-yo dieter for years, and now in midlife finds that she cannot lose the weight as easily as in the past. We work on the polarity between a controlling part and an unconscious out-of-control indulger. The exile that we find goes back to a broken relationship in her mid-20s. Its protector never wants to be intimate and vulnerable to that depth of hurt again.

 

Getting to know a food controller demonstrationGetting to Know a Food Controller

This university professor client has explored IFS intellectually, and was eager to experience it. She begins by exploring three parts of the cluster: the Food Controller, the Indulger, and the Inner Defender. As we get to know the Food Controller in the form of a Head Mistress, it spontaneously begins to soften and change. We are able to get a glimpse of the exile that she is protecting, but the client is not ready for work with her at this time. The Head Mistress wants to maintain her role, but in a softer way. The system nicely re-organizes itself and comes to a new, more peaceful status quo. This session is an excellent introduction to the IFS process.

 

B26-Working-with-a-Foggy-Part-NEWA Foggy Part that Protects Shame

This is an interesting demo with a client who has a lot of eating disorder treatment experience. She is still struggling with a dissociative foggy part. The turning point in the work is my helping her to take a stand with a Shaming Part that arises as the exiles are telling their stores. She arrives at an important clarification about the difference between facing internal struggles and feeling incapacitated. As she feels stronger and clearer, she is able to stand up for her exiles for the first time, and her credibility in the system is solidified. We see the dramatic changes that occur when she is present with courage and vitality in her internal system.

 

The Food Controller Pattern

The Food Controller tries to regulate your eating when it thinks it isn’t good for you or might be dangerous.food controller

It believes that without its efforts, you will be out of control and ruin your life. This can result in being obsessed with food, worrying about your weight and your figure, feeling bad about your eating habits, going on diets, making resolutions, or feeling shame about lapses in meeting your eating goals.

The Food Controller may be rigid and punitive. It may have fixed and precise standards for how you should eat. The biggest problem may be that the Food Controller Inner Critic tries to enforce these standards by attacking and shaming you when you fail to measure up to them. Even if the Food Controller wants what’s best for you, it often goes about this in a harsh, punitive way. It may have learned this strategy from the way your parents tried to control you as a child.

Your Food Controller may be activated even if your eating isn’t out of line. You may feel as though you are fighting a chronic battle with someone who doesn’t see you. This kind of Food Controller has an unrealistic view of who you are or the danger of your impulses. It may attack you for really enjoying your food or for occasionally eating too much. Or even if you are somewhat impulsive with food, your Food Controller may react in a way that is much more harsh, punitive, and rigid than is needed. Your culture may have an unreasonable ideal of thinness, and this can result in feeling that you have to rigidly control your normal impulses. In this case, your Food Controller may work against what is natural and healthy for you.

On the other hand, your Food Controller might be reacting to an out-of-control Indulger Pattern that is having a damaging effect on your life. There may be a real need to moderate your eating, for the sake of your health or your appearance, but with the Food Controller Pattern, this is done in a harsh, shaming way rather than a constructive way. It may make you feel really bad about yourself whenever you binge. Paradoxically, this often stimulates a need for self-soothing, which is often done by more eating. So often the judgmental strategy that the Food Controller uses actually backfires and makes things worse.

Self-Therapy Journey  has a module for eating issues which includes the Food Controller Pattern.