IFS Classes and Groups

I offer a variety of classes and groups based on IFS (Internal Family Systems Therapy), which are summarized below.

The groups and classes meet by videoconference, so we all can see each other, which enhances the group connection. They meet twice a month, and members of the groups meet with me for an individual consultation on the group every 3 months. Each meeting is recorded, so if you miss one, you can watch the recording.

Advanced IFS Classes

In my Advanced IFS Classes, you learn intermediate and advanced techniques and understandings that go beyond what I teach in the Basic and Exiles Courses. I lead demonstration IFS sessions with volunteers from the class, and you practice with each other in pairs for homework. In addition, the whole group works together on important psychological issues such as procrastination, the inner critic, depression, eating issues, and more. There are separate classes for therapists/coaches, which include advanced training and consultation on IFS.

If you are new to IFS, you can take my recorded Basic IFS Class (make sure to do the homework, preferably with a partner) and then join one of these classes.

There are three different classes, each of which is $50/session, $100/month.

Class 1:
First and third Wednesdays of each month
For therapists and coaches
4:30-6:30 pm pacific time (7:30-9:30 eastern)

Class 2:
Second and fourth Wednesdays of each month
For anyone
4:15-6:15 pm pacific time (7:15-9:15 eastern)

Class 3:
Second and fourth Tuesdays of each month
For therapists and coaches
9:30-11:30 am pacific time (12:30-2:30 eastern, 5:30-7:30 UK)

Click here for detailed information, topics covered, and how to join.

Interactive/IFS Groups 

An Interactive/IFS Group can help you . . .

  • Develop your capacity for intimacy and learn how to make a love relationship work
  • Become more assertive
  • Become more outgoing and socially comfortable
  • Learn what you may be doing to keep your relationships from being satisfying
  • Understand and trust people of the opposite sex . . . or of the same sex
  • Learn how to deal with anger and conflict constructively
  • Become part of a loving community of people
  • Raise your self-esteem
  • Get in touch with your personal power

You can learn these relationship skills:

  • Being in touch with your feelings and expressing them
  • Speaking for your parts, not acting them out
  • Reaching out to others confidently
  • Saying ”No” firmly
  • Allowing yourself to be open and vulnerable
  • Expressing yourself forcefully and spontaneously
  • Being comfortable relating to a group of people
  • Asking for what you really want
  • Having the courage to bring up difficult issues
  • Empathizing with others 

What Happens

  • You work directly on how you are relating to the other group members . . . in the moment. Instead of just talking about how you relate in your life, you practice interacting with others right in the group and get help as you do.
  • You get direct and honest feedback on how people are reacting to you.
  • The group provides a safe place for you to try out new, healthy ways of relating to people.
  • You learn how to feel your emotional responses and identify the parts that are activated while interacting with people
  • You learn how communicate openly, clearly, and assertively.
  • You learn how to access and work with the parts of you that get triggered in interactions with people, using IFS.
  • You see other people struggling with problems similar to yours, and through this you learn about yourself and others.
  • There is a strong sense of support for each person and a warm feeling of community in the group.

There are two different groups, each of which is $60/meeting, $120/month, including consultations.

Group 1:
For anyone
First and third Tuesdays of each month
4:30-6:30 pm pacific time (7:30-9:30 pm eastern)

Group 2:
For therapists and coaches
Second and fourth Wednesdays of each month
10am- 12 noon pacific time (1-3 pm eastern, 6-8 pm UK)

Click here for more information.

Email me at earley.jay@gmail.com for a free pre-group interview

 

Fall 2016: Upcoming Webinars, Classes and Groups

Here is a listing of all of our new webinars, seminars, classes, and groups for this fall plus our ongoing classes and groups. All of the introductory webinars and seminars are free, and all of the webinars will be recorded, so feel free to sign up for them even if you can’t make the time, because you will receive a link to the recording afterward.

Introductory Webinars and Seminars

Webinar: Introduction to Self-Therapy Journey
Jay Earley, PhD
Thursday, Sept. 8
4:30-6:30 pm pacific time (7:30-9:30 pm eastern)
Click here to register for free

The Power of IFS: A Webinar for Therapists
Jay Earley, PhD
Mon. Sept. 12
4:30-6 pm pacific time (7:30-9 pm eastern)
Click here to register for free

Webinar: Introduction to Advanced IFS Classes
Jay Earley, PhD
Tuesday, Sept. 13
4:30-5:30 pm pacific time (7:30-8:30 pm eastern)
Click here to register for free

Webinar: Introduction to Interactive Groups
Jay Earley, PhD
Thursday, Sept. 15
4:30-6 pm pacific time (7:30-9 pm eastern)
Click here to register for free

Webinar: Transforming Your Inner Critic Using IFS
Jay Earley, PhD
Monday, Sept. 19
4:30-6:30 pm pacific time (7:30-9:30 pm eastern)
Click here to register for free

Drop-in Interactive Group
Jay Earley, PhD
Thursday, Sept. 22
4:30-6:30 pm pacific time (7:30-9:30 pm eastern)
Click here to register for free

Seminar: How to Change the World without (Necessarily) Being an Activist
Tuesday, Sept. 27
4:30-6:30 pm pacific time (7:30-9:30 pm eastern)
Click here to register for free

Experiential Introduction to Internal Family Systems (IFS)
Everett Considine, IFSCP
Thursday, October 6
5:00-6:30 pm Pacific (8:00-9:30 pm Eastern)
Click here to register for free

Videoconference Courses

Transforming Your Inner Critic using IFS
Jay Earley, PhD
Mondays, 4:30-6:30 pm pacific time (7:30-9:30 pm eastern)
Sept. 26, Oct. 10, 17, 24, Nov. 7, 14
Cost: $250
Click here to register

Australia IFS Class – Series 5
Bonnie Weiss, LCSW
Sat. Oct 8, 22, 2016, Nov 5, 19 AEST
Equivalent times in US Pacific/Eastern timezone – all welcome!
Oct 7, 21, Nov 6, 3-5:00 pm Pacific | 6-8 pm Eastern, Nov 18 — US
2-4:00 pm Pacific | 5-7 pm Eastern
Cost: $180
Click here to enroll

6 Week Basic IFS Course
Led by Everett Considine, IFSCP
Class Dates: Thursday, Oct 13th, 20th, 27th, Nov 3rd,  10th,  17th
Class Time: 4:30-6:30 pm Pacific (7:30-9:30 pm Eastern)
Cost: $275 – $475
Click here to enroll

Explore the Enneagram through the Systemic Lens of IFS
10 Week Class (by videoconference)
Mondays
4:30 – 6:00 pm pacific (7:30 – 9:00 pm eastern)
Oct 17, 24, 31, Nov 7, 14, 21, 28, Dec 5, 12, 19
Cost $350
Contact Everett at everettconsidine@gmail.com to enroll

Ongoing Videoconference Groups and Classes

Advanced Ongoing IFS Classes 
Taught by Jay Earley, PhD
$50/session, $100/month
Email Jay at earley.jay@gmail.com for a free interview about joining a class.

Class 1: First and third Wednesdays of each month
Time: 4:30-6:30 pm pacific time (7:30-9:30 pm eastern)

Class 2: Second and fourth Wednesdays of each month
Time: 4:30-6:30 pm pacific time (7:30-9:30 pm eastern)

Class 3: First and third Tuesdays of each month
Time: 10 am-12 noon pacific time (1-3 pm eastern, 6-8 pm UK)

Interactive Groups 
Led by Jay Earley, PhD
$120/month, including consultations
Email Jay at earley.jay@gmail.com for a free pre-group interview

Group 1: Regular Interactive Group
First and third Tuesdays of each month
4:30-6:30 pm pacific time (7:30-9:30 pm eastern)

Group 2: Interactive Therapists’ Group
Second and fourth Wednesdays of each month
10am- 12 noon pacific time (1-3 pm eastern, 6-8 pm UK)

Group 3: Interactive Couples Group
Second and fourth Thursdays of each month
4:30-6:30 pm pacific time (7:30-9:30 pm eastern)
Starts Oct. 13

IFS Consultation/Training Group for IFS therapists
Led by Jay Earley, PhD
Once a month
Thursdays 10 AM -12 noon pacific time (1 -3 PM eastern)
$70/session
Email earley.jay@gmail.com or call 415-339-8060 for more information or to join.

 

 

Online Book Party for Self-Therapy, Vol. 3.

 

WelcoOnline book party for Self-therapy Vol. 3me to my first online book party. This free party is for my newly published book, Self-Therapy, Vol. 3.

I am excited to try holding a book part by videoconference.

Tuesday, July 12
5-6:30 pm pacific time (8-9:30 pm eastern)
Free

The first book in this series, Self-Therapy, brought Internal Family Systems Therapy (IFS) to both Self-Therapy, Vol. 3therapists and the general public. Vol. 3 shows how IFS can be used to transform a variety of important psychological issues. You don’t need to have read Vol 2. If you have been using IFS with your clients or in your own inner work, this book will help you to heal and transform eating issues, procrastination, the inner critic, depression, perfectionism, anger, communication, and more.

This online book party will be held by videoconference so we can all see each other. Come and have a fun evening!

It will include:

  • A discussion of the book and an opportunity to purchase it.
  • A guided meditation based on one of the chapters.
  • A chance to mingle and get to know the people attending.
  • A description of Vol. 2 and the upcoming Vol. 4 in the Self-Therapy Series.
  • Question answered about IFS, the content of Vol. 3, my books and other products, my classes and groups, Self-Therapy Journey, or anything else.

Click here to register for free.

 

Self-Therapy, Vol. 3

Self-Therapy, Vol. 3A Step-by-Step Guide to Using IFS for Eating Issues, Procrastination, the Inner Critic, Depression, Perfectionism, Anger, Communication, and More

I am excited to announce the publication of my new book in the Self-Therapy Series. It is available now in Kindle and PDF and will be published in paperback in a week or so.

The first book in this series, Self-Therapy, brought Internal Family Systems Therapy (IFS) to both therapists and the general public. IFS is a powerful and user-friendly method of therapy, which can be done on your own. Self-Therapy, Vol. 3 shows how IFS can be used to transform a variety of important psychological issues. You don’t need to have read Vol 2.

If you have been using IFS with your clients or in your own inner work, this book will help you to heal and transform eating issues, procrastination, the inner critic, depression, perfectionism, anger, communication, and more.

Click here for more information or to purchase.

 

Keeping Track of Your Thread in an IFS Session

Do you know how to keep track of your thread in an IFS Session?

The human psyche is a complicated weave of many colored threads of material. It is easy to get pushed and pulled from one thread to another as they are activated. For example, suppose your lover threatens to leave you, and you have a strong reaction of insecurity. You begin to explore your reaction, and you discover a defensive part that wants to prove to your lover that it’s not your fault that he wants to leave. You switch to that part, but before you have gotten very far in getting to know it, you become aware of a feeling of terror coming from a different part. You begin to explore this terrified part and discover that it is frightened about being alone if your lover leaves.

Before long, a loud inner voice starts telling you that it is all your fault that this is happening. This is a self-judging part that insists on being heard, so you switch your attention to it and begin to listen to what it has to say. It starts telling you all the things you have done wrong in the relationship, so no wonder your partner is fed up with you. You get curious about why the self-judging part feels a need to berate you so strongly. In the middle of this exploration, you notice an intense feeling of shame coming from a part that is being impacted by this self-judgment. The self-criticism is making this part feel worthless and unlovable.

Through all this, your attention is constantly being pulled to the part that has the strongest feeling at any moment. You haven’t been able to stick with any one part long enough to understand it or connect with it.  Your attention is a soccer ball on a field being booted around by a team of players. And by the time all these parts have come up, it is easy to forget the part you originally wanted to work with.

It can be useful to access all parts as they arise, because this gives them a chance to be heard, but in the scenario I outlined above, the parts jumped in on each other so fast that none of them really got much attention. And you couldn’t progress toward healing because you kept getting derailed. IFS provides a way to follow one thread at a time through the tapestry of your psyche until you have unraveled it and healed the part it represents. Plan to stay with the target part you have chosen unless you have a good reason to switch to a different target part. Ask the other parts to step aside. Let them know that they will have a turn to be heard, and ask them to let you proceed with the one you picked. You might want to take notes so you can keep track of all the parts that have come up.

For example, suppose you decide to focus on the defensive part and then the self-judging part comes up. Let the self-judging part know that you will take time to listen to it later, but you need to get to know the defensive part now. Ask the self-judging part to wait. If it can’t wait, encourage it to tell you about its judgments, and take some time to hear what it has to say with curiosity and compassion. Once the self-judging part feels heard, ask it to allow you to proceed with the defensive part. It is likely to do that now, which allows you to stay on track.

If any other parts jump in while you are listening to the self-judging part, ask them to step aside, too. And let them know that you will get to know them in the future. Keep track of all the parts that come up and need to be heard so you can keep your promise to listen to them later. This procedure allows you to stay on track with your work without ignoring or dismissing any parts. If they feel dismissed, they might resent you and resist you later.

Self-Therapy A Step-by-StepThis is an excerpt from my book Self-Therapy.

April 25 – Introduction to Advanced IFS Classes

Please join us on April 25 for the Introduction to Advanced IFS Classes Webinar.

In the Advanced Ongoing IFS Classes you learn intermediate and advanced techniques and understandings that go beyond what I teach in the Basic and Exiles Courses. In addition, the whole group works together on important psychological issues such as procrastination, the inner critic, depression, eating issues, and many more. Therapists also have a chance for advanced training and consultation on IFS.

There are 4 classes.

Click here for detailed information about the Advanced IFS Classes, schedules, and how to join.

I am so grateful for this offering from Jay and the opportunity to deepen and expand my understanding of IFS (which I adore).  Jay has structured the class so thoughtfully, resulting in a wonderfully safe and respectful container for learning and processing.  In addition, he presents a deliciously comprehensive curriculum, and best of all, invaluable demonstrations each session.  This is pure gold.  On top of all of this, Jay has assembled a fantastic group of practitioners as participants, whom–thanks to Jay’s video-conferencing wizardry–I can see and interact with in a way that feels intimate and dynamic.
— Carolyn Hinman, JD, CCHT

Webinar: Introduction to Advanced IFS Classes
Jay Earley, PhD
Monday, April 25
5-6 pm pacific time (8-9 pm eastern)
Click here to register for free

Register even if you can’t attend. You will receive a replay afterward.

 

 

 

The Self-Acceptance Project

Self-Acceptance Project Book

A couple of years ago, Tami Simon, of Sounds True, did a series of interviews with leading spiritual and personal growth teachers on developing self-acceptance. Tami is a very good interviewer.

I have gotten numerous comments on the interview that she did with me, and how it helped people to understand IFS and how it works with Inner Critic parts. (To view this interview, click here.)

Now Sounds True has published a book with all the interviews. I recommend it highly.

Working with Your Procrastinator and Taskmaster

Are you a Procrastinator?

If you are one of the many people who struggle with procrastination, it means that there is a part of you that wants to avoid a certain task. This Procrastinator Part is a protector, but you may not be consciously aware of it.

Therefore, the first step in doing IFS on procrastination is to discover this part and access it (see Chapter 4 in Self-Therapy).

Here is one way to do this. Remember what it feels like when you are procrastinating. I don’t mean what you feel when you realize that you have been procrastinating. That usually comes a different part—a part that is upset with you for procrastinating. I am referring to the feelings you have when you are avoiding a task—when you are getting distracted, doing non-essential tasks, putting off the important task, or feeling stuck and unable to get started.

The Procrastinator

 

Tune into that experience of avoidance. You may feel an emotion, an impulse, a fear, or a sense of wanting to avoid. Notice what this feels like in your body. Get a sense of the part of you that is avoiding; you might see an image of that part.

You work on this part just the way you would work on any other protector in IFS. First you unblend from it if necessary (Chapter 5 in Self-Therapy). Then you unblend from any concerned parts (Chapter 6 in Self-Therapy). It can get dicey during this step, so let me explain further. When you check to see how you feel toward the Procrastination Part, you may realize that you are judging the Procrastination Part and wanting to get rid of it.

This indicates that you are blended with a type of part that I call the Taskmaster, which may be angry at you (and specifically at your Procrastinator) for procrastinating. The Taskmaster is a type of Inner Critic that pushes you to work hard and judges you if you don’t. When you are procrastinating, your Taskmaster will work very hard to overcome the Procrastination and get you to take action.

The Taskmaster

 

You can ask the Taskmaster to step aside, but it may not be willing to do so if it is strongly polarized with the Procrastinator.

These parts may be fighting over taking action. Not only is the Taskmaster probably feeling angry and judgmental toward the Procrastinator, but the Procrastinator may be rebelling against your Taskmaster. It may be saying,

“Don’t tell me what to do! You push me so hard to work all the time that you make my life miserable. So I have to fight back just to get some space to relax and enjoy life. Leave me alone!”

You may have to work through this polarization in addition to working on your Procrastination Part.

Self-Therapy A Step-by-Step

Webinar November 4: Introduction to Advanced IFS Classes

Webinar: Introduction to Advanced IFS ClassesWebinar Presentation

Wednesday, November 4
10-11 am pacific time (1-2 pm eastern, 6-7 pm UK)
Click here to register for free
Register even if you can’t attend. You will receive a replay afterward.

In the Advanced Ongoing IFS Classes you learn advanced techniques and understandings that go beyond what I teach in the Basic and Exiles Courses. In addition, the whole group works together on important psychological issues such as procrastination, the inner critic, depression, eating issues, and many more. Therapists also have a chance for advanced training and consultation on IFS.

There are 4 classes.

Click here for detailed information about the classes, schedules, and how to join.

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I am so grateful for this offering from Jay and the opportunity to deepen and expand my understanding of IFS (which I adore).  Jay has structured the class so thoughtfully, resulting in a wonderfully safe and respectful container for learning and processing.  In addition, he presents a deliciously comprehensive curriculum, and best of all, invaluable demonstrations each session.  This is pure gold.  On top of all of this, Jay has assembled a fantastic group of practitioners as participants, whom–thanks to Jay’s video-conferencing wizardry–I can see and interact with in a way that feels intimate and dynamic.
— Carolyn Hinman, JD, CCHT

 

Webinar: Introduction to Advanced IFS Classes
Jay Earley, PhD
Wednesday, Nov. 4
10-11 am pacific time (1-2 pm eastern, 6-7 pm UK)
Click here to register for free

Register even if you can’t attend. You will receive a replay afterward.

 

Advanced Ongoing IFS Class

Last week I finished teaching an Inner Critic Course and an IFS Exiles Course. Quite a few of the people want to continue, so I have decided to offer an Advanced Ongoing IFS Class.

The Advanced Ongoing IFS Class will meet twice a month for two hours over the telephone. Each class will include some teaching from me, lots of sharing and discussion, demonstration IFS sessions, where I work with a volunteer from the class, and some experiential group exercises. You will pair up with each other between classes to practice doing IFS sessions with each other. This is a very important part of the class, and people tell me how much they get from working with each other.

The class will be similar to my 6-week classes, except that it will be ongoing and meet every other week. This means that once you join the class, you are responsible for attending each meeting (unless you are ill or on vacation) until you leave. This also means that we will have a chance to develop a really close knit, connected group, which will make it safe for people to be vulnerable with each other. I taught a class like this that ran for about five years and was very successful.

Each class will be recorded, so if you have to miss, you can listen to the recording.

There are many important IFS techniques and understandings that I can cover in the class. These include:

  • Resolving polarization
  • Managers and firefighters
  • Working with anger and disowned anger
  • Negotiating for Self-leadership
  • Working with legacy burdens
  • Working with and transforming Inner Critic parts
  • Disowned parts
  • Protector subparts of exiles
  • Somatic IFS
  • Critters (entities)
  • Guides
  • Internal patterns that come up in doing IFS work

In addition, the class will cover how to work with specific psychological topics, such as the following:

  • Transform psychological issues, such as procrastination, depression, shyness, anxiety, eating issues, addictions, perfectionism, etc.
  • Working through interpersonal patterns such as people-pleasing, passive-aggressive, victim, controlling, rebel, judgmental, etc.
  • Healing emotional wounds from childhood such as shame, abandonment, being judged, guilt, feeling unlovable, feeling worthless, etc.
  • Developing healthy capacities such as love, personal power, self-confidence, life purpose, flow, creativity, peace, vitality, clarity/organization, contributing to social transformation, etc.

The specific topics will depend on your interests and desires.

When dealing with certain topics, such as procrastination or eating issues, it is very helpful to pair up with someone from the class to not only do IFS sessions but also to support each other in making changes in your behavior. This will be an important part of the class.

There will be two different classes, both on Wednesdays.

Class 1: First and third Wednesdays of each month

Class 2: Second and fourth Wednesdays of each month

Both Classes:
Time: 4:30-6:30 pm pacific time (7:30-9:30 eastern)
Cost: $50/session, which is $100/month

The prerequisite for the class is my Basic IFS Course or equivalent. If you want to join but haven’t yet taken the Basic Course, there is a recorded version available in our online store at http://personal-growth-programs.com/products/product-category/courses/ifs-basic-course/. Once you take this course, you can join the Advanced Class. Make sure that you do the experiential homework for the course (preferably with a partner).

Click here to enroll. Go right to step 3 where you can pay by check, PayPal, or credit card.