The IFS View of the Human Psyche

IFS provides a new and startling view of the human psyche. It sees human beings as complex systems of interacting “parts,” which are natural divisions of the personality. Suppose one part of you is trying to lose weight, and another part wants to wolf down a ton of sweets. When you crave that piece of cake late at night, it isn’t just a desire that comes up from time to time. There is an entity inside you that repeatedly needs a sense of sweet fullness. It has reasons why it feels it must have that dessert. It might need to push down anger or fill an unbearable sensation of emptiness. This part has memories that drive these needs—for example, feeling emotionally hungry as a child.

You may hear a different inner voice saying “Eat a piece of celery instead,” or “You should be a shamed of how you gorged yourself!” You may think of these as just thoughts that pop up, but they come from another part of you whose job is to control your eating. It could be concerned with your waistline or your health. It might believe that you won’t be loved if you aren’t thin. And it may have memories of being ridiculed for being overweight in grade school.

But these are simple concepts that only begin to touch on the richness and complexity of our inner life. Our inner family may include a lonely baby, a wise mentor, an angry child, a stern mother, a calm meditator, a magician, a happy animal, a closed-off protector, and so on.

The IFS View of the Human Psyche

These parts inside us are frequently shifting and changing. One of them takes over for a while, and we act and feel a certain way. Then we enter a new situation, and another character comes to the fore. Usually we view these changes as no more than slight shifts in mood or perspective, but, in fact, each shift marks the emergence of an entirely new subpersonality.

Each part gets activated at certain times. When I am in a large group of strangers, a part of me feels shy and wants to withdraw. When a supervisor criticizes you, a part of you may be thrown off balance and feel utterly incompetent. When Jill’s husband acts arrogant, a part of her wants to strangle him. When you get rejected by a lover, a part of you may feel devastated, like an abandoned child. When you feel threatened by a powerful person, a headache may come on because a part is clamping down on the muscles in your head to defend against terror. Any feeling reaction, thought sequence, behavior pattern, or body sensation can indicate the presence of a part.

Some of our parts are in pain, and others want to protect us from feeling that pain. Some try to manage how we interact with people. Some are locked in battles with each other. And all this is going on largely outside our awareness. All we know is that sometimes we feel content and sometimes we are anxious, depressed, frustrated, or confused, and we don’t know why.

Underlying this cast of characters, every human being has a true Self that is wise, deep, open, and loving. This is who we truly are when we aren’t being hijacked by painful or defensive voices. The Self is the key to healing and integrating our disparate parts through its compassion, curiosity, and connectedness. It is also the natural leader of our inner family, a guide through the adventures of life.

IFS can help you access your Self, and from that place of strength and love you can connect with your troubled parts and heal them. Your parts are naturally endowed with qualities such as joy, freedom, perceptiveness, and creativity, but these have been lost because of childhood wounds. The Self can help heal these wounds and allow these parts to reclaim their natural strengths and goodness. They can come to trust you to lead, if you do it from Self. They can learn to work together with each other as a harmonious inner family that supports your flowering in the world.

When you really understand this view of the psyche, you see yourself in a whole new light. You perceive your depth and beauty. You reclaim your true nature as a garden of healthy, effective, vital plants growing in the deep, rich soil of the Self.


Self-Therapy, Vol. 2


Self-Therapy-Vol-2I am excited to announce the publication of Self-Therapy, Vol. 2 in both paperback and eBook versions. 

Self-Therapy brought Internal Family Systems Therapy to both therapists and the general public. It shows how working with parts can be user-friendly, respectful, and powerful. Self-Therapy, Vol. 2 takes the next step by describing advanced IFS techniques and insights related to staying in your true Self and working with protectors (defenses). If you have been using IFS with your clients or in your own inner work, this book will help you work through difficulties that may have arisen so your work can be even more healing and transformative.

Learn when to switch parts, how to track your work, negotiate for Self-leadership, and work with polarization, Self-like parts, managers, and firefighters.

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The many readers of Jay Earley’s Self-Therapy, Vol. 1 will be pleased to find that Vol. 2 systematically guides you to identify, track, negotiate with, and transform your protectors. I appreciate Jay’s thorough approach, enhanced by experiential exercises, case examples, special notes to the therapist, and Help Sheets. I recommend this book not only for the general public, but also for students, graduates, and trainers of IFS.
~Susan McConnell, Senior IFS Lead Trainer

Self-Therapy, Vol. 2 is the exciting new sequel to Self-Therapy.  It is an indispensable guide for anyone on the journey of mindful self-discovery, understanding, and empowerment. Earley, in his surprisingly easy writing style, turns up the excitement by illuminating “hidden in plain sight” patterns, and masterfully mapping the steps that turn treatment roadblocks into bridges!
~Roseanne Keefe, LICSW

One book cannot adequately cover the many IFS concepts and methods I developed the past 30 years, hence Self-Therapy, Vol 2. In it you will find clear and practical descriptions of important concepts like polarization among parts and how to depolarize them, Self-like parts and how to detect them, and tips for maintaining and deepening the work.
~Richard Schwartz, PhD, Creator of IFS, author of Internal Family Systems Therapy and You’re the One You’ve Been Waiting For