Online Book Party for Self-Therapy, Vol. 3.

 

WelcoOnline book party for Self-therapy Vol. 3me to my first online book party. This free party is for my newly published book, Self-Therapy, Vol. 3.

I am excited to try holding a book part by videoconference.

Tuesday, July 12
5-6:30 pm pacific time (8-9:30 pm eastern)
Free

The first book in this series, Self-Therapy, brought Internal Family Systems Therapy (IFS) to both Self-Therapy, Vol. 3therapists and the general public. Vol. 3 shows how IFS can be used to transform a variety of important psychological issues. You don’t need to have read Vol 2. If you have been using IFS with your clients or in your own inner work, this book will help you to heal and transform eating issues, procrastination, the inner critic, depression, perfectionism, anger, communication, and more.

This online book party will be held by videoconference so we can all see each other. Come and have a fun evening!

It will include:

  • A discussion of the book and an opportunity to purchase it.
  • A guided meditation based on one of the chapters.
  • A chance to mingle and get to know the people attending.
  • A description of Vol. 2 and the upcoming Vol. 4 in the Self-Therapy Series.
  • Question answered about IFS, the content of Vol. 3, my books and other products, my classes and groups, Self-Therapy Journey, or anything else.

Click here to register for free.

 

Self-Therapy, Vol. 3

Self-Therapy, Vol. 3A Step-by-Step Guide to Using IFS for Eating Issues, Procrastination, the Inner Critic, Depression, Perfectionism, Anger, Communication, and More

I am excited to announce the publication of my new book in the Self-Therapy Series. It is available now in Kindle and PDF and will be published in paperback in a week or so.

The first book in this series, Self-Therapy, brought Internal Family Systems Therapy (IFS) to both therapists and the general public. IFS is a powerful and user-friendly method of therapy, which can be done on your own. Self-Therapy, Vol. 3 shows how IFS can be used to transform a variety of important psychological issues. You don’t need to have read Vol 2.

If you have been using IFS with your clients or in your own inner work, this book will help you to heal and transform eating issues, procrastination, the inner critic, depression, perfectionism, anger, communication, and more.

Click here for more information or to purchase.

 

April 25 – Introduction to Advanced IFS Classes

Please join us on April 25 for the Introduction to Advanced IFS Classes Webinar.

In the Advanced Ongoing IFS Classes you learn intermediate and advanced techniques and understandings that go beyond what I teach in the Basic and Exiles Courses. In addition, the whole group works together on important psychological issues such as procrastination, the inner critic, depression, eating issues, and many more. Therapists also have a chance for advanced training and consultation on IFS.

There are 4 classes.

Click here for detailed information about the Advanced IFS Classes, schedules, and how to join.

I am so grateful for this offering from Jay and the opportunity to deepen and expand my understanding of IFS (which I adore).  Jay has structured the class so thoughtfully, resulting in a wonderfully safe and respectful container for learning and processing.  In addition, he presents a deliciously comprehensive curriculum, and best of all, invaluable demonstrations each session.  This is pure gold.  On top of all of this, Jay has assembled a fantastic group of practitioners as participants, whom–thanks to Jay’s video-conferencing wizardry–I can see and interact with in a way that feels intimate and dynamic.
— Carolyn Hinman, JD, CCHT

Webinar: Introduction to Advanced IFS Classes
Jay Earley, PhD
Monday, April 25
5-6 pm pacific time (8-9 pm eastern)
Click here to register for free

Register even if you can’t attend. You will receive a replay afterward.

 

 

 

Introduction to Advanced IFS Classes Webinar – February 1

In the Advanced Ongoing IFS Classes you learn advanced techniques and understandings that go beyond what I teach in the Basic and Exiles Courses.

In addition, the whole group works together on important psychological issues such as procrastination, the inner critic, depression, eating issues, and many more. Therapists also have a chance for advanced training and consultation on IFS.

There are 4 classes.

Click here for detailed information about the Advanced IFS Classes, schedules, and how to join.

I am so grateful for this offering from Jay and the opportunity to deepen and expand my understanding of IFS (which I adore).  Jay has structured the class so thoughtfully, resulting in a wonderfully safe and respectful container for learning and processing.  In addition, he presents a deliciously comprehensive curriculum, and best of all, invaluable demonstrations each session.  This is pure gold.  On top of all of this, Jay has assembled a fantastic group of practitioners as participants, whom–thanks to Jay’s video-conferencing wizardry–I can see and interact with in a way that feels intimate and dynamic.
— Carolyn Hinman, JD, CCHT

 

Webinar: Introduction to Advanced IFS Classes
Jay Earley, PhD
Monday, Feb. 1
3:30-4:30 pm pacific time (6:30-7:30 pm eastern)
Click here to register for free

Register even if you can’t attend. You will receive a replay afterward.

Self-Therapy Journey Demonstration Webinar – November 30

Self-Therapy-JourneySelf-Therapy Journey (STJ) is an online tool for psychological exploration and healing. You get the life-changing power of psychotherapy for a tiny fraction of the cost.

You can think of STJ as a very sophisticated and interactive set of self-help books, plus guided meditations and customized reports. It is based on the Pattern System and Internal Family Systems Therapy. Check it out at www.selftherapyjourney.com.

This free webinar will help you learn about STJ to decide if they want to use it. I will provide an overview of STJ and a demonstration of how to use it on the web, which will include almost every page. I will also answer questions about STJ.

Monday, November 30
4:30-6:30 PM pacific time (7:30-9:30 PM eastern time)
Free
Click here to enroll for free.

Feel free to register even if you can’t make that time. A replay of the webinar will be sent to you afterwards.

What can you do with Self-Therapy Journey?

  • Understand yourself psychologically
  • Resolve problems like procrastination, shyness, or anger
  • Gain self-confidence, strength, openness
  • Transform behavior patterns, such as dependency or people-pleasing
  • Achieve intimacy, success, contentment

How does Self-Therapy Journey work?

  • You take charge of your growth, in private, at your convenience
  • There are guided meditations for healing your emotional wounds
  • You get a customized report for each pattern, wound, and capacity
  • You engage in homework practices to change your behavior
  • You systematically work on your issues and track your progress

What Users are Saying

Self-Therapy Journey is brilliant. It’s been an absolutely great experience to use it. Every time I had a thought like, “What about this?” there was something in the online system to handle it.
— Athena Murphy

I think Self-Therapy Journey is immensely helpful. You can go as deep as you’re willing or want to go.
— Elizabeth Moulton, Clinical Psychologist

The problems that I worked on using Self-Therapy Journey have been resolved.
— Cathy Duke, Licensed Counselor

Webinar November 4: Introduction to Advanced IFS Classes

Webinar: Introduction to Advanced IFS ClassesWebinar Presentation

Wednesday, November 4
10-11 am pacific time (1-2 pm eastern, 6-7 pm UK)
Click here to register for free
Register even if you can’t attend. You will receive a replay afterward.

In the Advanced Ongoing IFS Classes you learn advanced techniques and understandings that go beyond what I teach in the Basic and Exiles Courses. In addition, the whole group works together on important psychological issues such as procrastination, the inner critic, depression, eating issues, and many more. Therapists also have a chance for advanced training and consultation on IFS.

There are 4 classes.

Click here for detailed information about the classes, schedules, and how to join.

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I am so grateful for this offering from Jay and the opportunity to deepen and expand my understanding of IFS (which I adore).  Jay has structured the class so thoughtfully, resulting in a wonderfully safe and respectful container for learning and processing.  In addition, he presents a deliciously comprehensive curriculum, and best of all, invaluable demonstrations each session.  This is pure gold.  On top of all of this, Jay has assembled a fantastic group of practitioners as participants, whom–thanks to Jay’s video-conferencing wizardry–I can see and interact with in a way that feels intimate and dynamic.
— Carolyn Hinman, JD, CCHT

 

Webinar: Introduction to Advanced IFS Classes
Jay Earley, PhD
Wednesday, Nov. 4
10-11 am pacific time (1-2 pm eastern, 6-7 pm UK)
Click here to register for free

Register even if you can’t attend. You will receive a replay afterward.

 

New Advanced Ongoing IFS Class – New Time

Good Time for Europeans, Israelis, and Americans who Work in the Evening

I am starting a new Advanced IFS Class that is in the morning in California, which makes it a good time for people in Europe or Israel, and for Americans who need to work in the late afternoon or evening.

First and third Tuesdays of each month
Time: 10 am-12 noon pacific time (1-3 pm eastern, 6pm UK)
Starts: Oct. 6

Cost: $50/session, $100/month
Contact me at 415-924-5256 or earley.jay@gmail.com if you have questions.

Prerequisite
In order to qualify for the class, you must have taken my Basic IFS Course or equivalent.

Enrollment
Click here to enroll. Go right to step 3 where you can pay by check, PayPal, or credit card.

In the Advanced Ongoing IFS Classes you learn advanced techniques and understandings that go beyond what I teach in the Basic and Exiles Courses. In addition, the whole group works together on important psychological issues such as procrastination, the inner critic, depression, eating issues, and many more. Therapists also have a chance for advanced training and consultation on IFS. I taught a class like this that ran for about five years and was very successful.

Format. The classes meet twice a month for two hours by video-conference. Each class includes teaching, lots of sharing and discussion, demonstration IFS sessions where I work with a volunteer from the class, and experiential group exercises. You pair up with each other between classes to practice doing IFS sessions with each other.

Professionals. Therapists and coaches (and other helping professionals) are welcome in the classes and some classes are all or mostly professionals. For those classes, we will engage in activities aimed primarily at professionals (see below). These classes are approved by the Center for Self-Leadership for IFS CE credit.

Click here for detailed information about this class and the other Advanced Classes. 

Attend a free webinar to learn more about the Advanced IFS Class.
Tuesday, 9/29/15, 10 am pacific (1 pm eastern)
Tuesday, 10/6/15, at 10:00 am pacific (1 pm eastern)
Click here to enroll for free

Introduction to IFS Parts Work Video Series

IFS Parts Video SeriesIf you are new to parts work or IFS, this is the perfect introduction. For those of you who already know IFS, this video series won’t contain anything new, but if you have friends whom you would like to introduce to IFS please share with them.

Do you struggle with…

  • Low self-esteem
  • Procrastination
  • Anger
  • Depression
  • Shyness
  • Eating issues

Or other psychological issues?

Do you want to have..

  • Self-confidence
  • Assertiveness
  • Intimacy
  • Aliveness
  • Success

Or other healthy capacities?

In my 40 years of practicing psychotherapy, I have discovered that, for most people, the best way to make these changes and achieve these goals is by working psychologically with your “parts.”

Click here to get the Parts Work Video Series.

Advanced Ongoing IFS Class

Last week I finished teaching an Inner Critic Course and an IFS Exiles Course. Quite a few of the people want to continue, so I have decided to offer an Advanced Ongoing IFS Class.

The Advanced Ongoing IFS Class will meet twice a month for two hours over the telephone. Each class will include some teaching from me, lots of sharing and discussion, demonstration IFS sessions, where I work with a volunteer from the class, and some experiential group exercises. You will pair up with each other between classes to practice doing IFS sessions with each other. This is a very important part of the class, and people tell me how much they get from working with each other.

The class will be similar to my 6-week classes, except that it will be ongoing and meet every other week. This means that once you join the class, you are responsible for attending each meeting (unless you are ill or on vacation) until you leave. This also means that we will have a chance to develop a really close knit, connected group, which will make it safe for people to be vulnerable with each other. I taught a class like this that ran for about five years and was very successful.

Each class will be recorded, so if you have to miss, you can listen to the recording.

There are many important IFS techniques and understandings that I can cover in the class. These include:

  • Resolving polarization
  • Managers and firefighters
  • Working with anger and disowned anger
  • Negotiating for Self-leadership
  • Working with legacy burdens
  • Working with and transforming Inner Critic parts
  • Disowned parts
  • Protector subparts of exiles
  • Somatic IFS
  • Critters (entities)
  • Guides
  • Internal patterns that come up in doing IFS work

In addition, the class will cover how to work with specific psychological topics, such as the following:

  • Transform psychological issues, such as procrastination, depression, shyness, anxiety, eating issues, addictions, perfectionism, etc.
  • Working through interpersonal patterns such as people-pleasing, passive-aggressive, victim, controlling, rebel, judgmental, etc.
  • Healing emotional wounds from childhood such as shame, abandonment, being judged, guilt, feeling unlovable, feeling worthless, etc.
  • Developing healthy capacities such as love, personal power, self-confidence, life purpose, flow, creativity, peace, vitality, clarity/organization, contributing to social transformation, etc.

The specific topics will depend on your interests and desires.

When dealing with certain topics, such as procrastination or eating issues, it is very helpful to pair up with someone from the class to not only do IFS sessions but also to support each other in making changes in your behavior. This will be an important part of the class.

There will be two different classes, both on Wednesdays.

Class 1: First and third Wednesdays of each month

Class 2: Second and fourth Wednesdays of each month

Both Classes:
Time: 4:30-6:30 pm pacific time (7:30-9:30 eastern)
Cost: $50/session, which is $100/month

The prerequisite for the class is my Basic IFS Course or equivalent. If you want to join but haven’t yet taken the Basic Course, there is a recorded version available in our online store at https://personal-growth-programs.com/products/product-category/courses/ifs-basic-course/. Once you take this course, you can join the Advanced Class. Make sure that you do the experiential homework for the course (preferably with a partner).

Click here to enroll. Go right to step 3 where you can pay by check, PayPal, or credit card.

The IFS Advantage

Read how using IFS Sandy would learn how to access her true Self, a port in the storm, a place of strength and compassion which is the source of internal healing. 

Sandy wanted to take on a creative video project, but she couldn’t seem to get started.  First she had to clean up her office, and that seemed to take forever. Then she found herself working out on the treadmill.  Okay, she thought, now I’m ready to go.  But instead of going to her office, she headed for the kitchen.  A half hour later she was preparing a 3-course meal.  After a few days like this, she acknowledged to herself that she was avoiding the project. This procrastination made her feel vaguely bad about herself, lethargic, and stuck. Sandy’s long-standing pattern of procrastination and depression was back.

If she picked up a self-help book, it would give her tips on mobilizing herself, rallying support, making decisions, and thinking positively. But these approaches ignore the crux of the problem. There is a part of Sandy that doesn’t want to work on her video project. That part is unconscious but nevertheless has the power to stop her. Actually the part has such power because it is unconscious. Since Sandy doesn’t know about it, she has no way to interact with it. A hidden part has extra influence because it can’t be addressed. It is like someone speaking ill of Sandy behind her back. Rumors would begin to fly, but Sandy wouldn’t know where they came from. She wouldn’t be able to confront the source.

If Sandy went into conventional therapy, she would probably uncover the avoidant part that keeps her busy with unrelated tasks. Then she might try to convert it or overcome it, seeing it as her enemy. However, this approach won’t work very well because it ignores the very real fears and motivations of this part. Sandy might explore where the avoidant part came from in her childhood, but this usually involves analytically understanding her history, and real change rarely comes from intellectual insight alone.

If we ask why the avoidant part operates the way it does, we see that several parts of Sandy are involved in her procrastination, and these parts have important relationships with each other. There is also a child part of Sandy who was criticized harshly by her father and made to feel incompetent. Whenever she attempts to accomplish something difficult, a task that she could fail at, that child part is triggered, like an echo from her past.  The avoidant part is not really Sandy’s enemy at all.  On the contrary, it is trying to protect this child; it is afraid she will be hurt again if Sandy tackles her video project.

There is also another force at work here.  A third part of Sandy pushes her to work hard and criticizes her when she doesn’t. It is constantly on her case to get working and be productive. All this self-criticism is grinding Sandy down, making the child part feel hated and worthless. Therefore the avoidant part is rebelling against this pushy/critical part. It doesn’t want Sandy to be dominated by harsh judgment, so it distracts her with other activities. But she can’t enjoy them because the demanding part keeps yelling at her in the background.

These parts are all extreme and are in serious conflicts with each other. Sandy feels like a ship in a storm, buffeted here and there, without a center from which to understand herself and move forward. What she needs is a way to integrate those parts into a caring, cooperative whole so she can feel good about herself and function well.

Even if all three parts were uncovered in psychodynamic therapy, the change would need to come through Sandy’s relationship with her therapist, which can be expensive and time-consuming to establish. Internal Family Systems Therapy (IFS) is an approach that helps you find your center, pinpoint the parts of you that are causing difficulties, heal them and unify them. Furthermore, IFS is not only a powerful form of therapy, it can be used for self-therapy. My IFS courses show you how to do that.

Using IFS, Sandy would learn how to access her true Self, a port in the storm, a place of strength and compassion which is the source of internal healing. Her Self would connect with each of Sandy’s three parts in a loving way that allowed them to trust her.

Following the IFS procedure, she could help them release their fears and negative beliefs, allowing their natural strengths to flourish. They would learn to cooperate with each other and support the unfolding of her life. She could then move ahead with her video project passionately and without reservations.